Carolyn Resnick Horsemanship: Liberty Horse Training

The Foundation for All Equestrian Pursuits Through the Horse-Human Connection.

DSC_7074My tip for the week:

If you are new to the game of horses, and you have a horse, make sure that your horse has other horses for company. It is cruel for a horse not to be kept with other horses. I mention this only because many people just starting out with horses would not necessarily know this. Nothing wants to be separated from their friends or from an environment that brings them well-being. Even if you only own one horse, it is good to keep him in an environment that has other horses around.

If you are new to my blog and new to horses:

What I am about to share with you might give you some food for thought and empower your approach with your horse. It might also answer some questions about what makes your horse tick. Today’s blog will get you acquainted with my method and how I approach the training of horses.

For my students that know my method:

Today’s blog will serve as an outline and a reminder of what you have learned. I hope it will also open your imagination to support you wherever you are right now in the training of your horse. The story about finding a horse in your back yard, that I will share with your shortly, I use to guide me while I am working on a new approach in the training of horses. It might do the same for you too.

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A mistake that many new horse owners and trainers make and what to do about it:

A mistake that many horse owners sometimes make is that they get an untrained horse so they can learn together with their horse. It does seem that it would be the natural way to train and make a connection. Then they find that the journey doesn’t unfold as they would have hoped. Green on green doesn’t usually work and when it does, it is a gift from God. It means you have a talent or a nack that cannot be denied. Looking at this situation, which many new horse owners face, is an opportunity for me to share some insight around horse behavior.It is usually when humans try to develop a bond with a horse with little or no experience that the horse takes on the leadership role. This happens because the human does not set rules for the horse to follow on social politeness in the beginning as the bond is forming. Instead, the human learns to put up with the conditions the horse sets for them. When this happens, they create a horse that is not easy to train that takes even more skill to fix.

A Person New to Horses:

The person new to horses is usually afraid of disturbing the bond or getting on the wrong side of the horse, which then causes a horse tJazz and Carolyn bondingo start taking gross advantage of them. Because horses have a pecking order behavior, if you do not take on a leadership position, they will. A horse needs his character shaped to be respectful and it is beneficial to know how to do this in the right way. Many times, a person believes that the horse would naturally be willing and kind from the love and care they offer to their horse, when actually, the care they offered has the opposite effect.

My method is a good way to develop your horse to work around your leadership rather than you having to work around your horse.  This will help you in the training of horses, it will enhance the bond, connection, communication ability, and politeness, both in the horse and yourself. From the relationship you have built, you will develop a horse that is easily trained.

Using the Waterhole Rituals you train the horse while the bond is growing, just like a herd of horses would do with an individual horse. The herd shapes the horse’s attitude in how to follow the leader and how to be polite by learning how to respect personal space of other horses and to pay attention to where the lead horse is at all times. This is all part of the bonding process horses go through to be in a herd where harmony and unity exist. Following the Waterhole Rituals develops the horse to respond to you in the same manner. 

Horse Training is not Rocket Science:

Horse training is an art and so is growing the bond and respect. At times, you will not know exactly what to do next but you figure it out. If you enjoy this challenge, it is a marker that you have what it takes to train a horse. If you can get comfortable with feeling off balance and clumsy, it will help you to grow in your learning process. Just like a dance. When we start out, we have two left feet, so expect it. When you can work with your two left feet, evolution will take you to the dance.

A Horse Story:Magical Horse

This story will allow your imagination to help you in the training of your horse and the importance of staying safe. Just imagine this: let’s say one morning, you look out your widow into your backyard to discover a horse in it. Now let’s say this horse is the first one to show up here on earth.Upon seeing this creature, you fall in love with it instantly. When you went out to the backyard, you found that this creature was dangerous and you had to retreat back to your house, but you were still in love with it. As the days went on, you discovered that when this horse was asleep, you could walk across the yard safely and be with it for a short time.The only thing you had working for you was your common sense and your fascination for this amazing creature.

You also found out that when he was occupied with his morning grazing, you could be with him. As time went by, he learned that you were very respectful of his space and he had stopped chasing you around as much. You have also found out that now you can move him away from you instead of the other way around and you can see that this creature is showing you that he can be trained and that his disposition is getting better.

People came to your house to see him and everyone respected you in what you knew of this creature. You became the expert in how to deal with horses. No one questioned your knowledge and you now feel you have a strong footing to continue growing your connection. If you have a horse that you know nothing about and you start Sharing Territory with the Waterhole Rituals, you will lean how to approach and train your horse much like the lady did in this story. This next story will guide you in how to evaluate your innate talent for training horses.

True Story:

I got a call for a man in France that wanted to buy my DVD. He had just purchased 5 young untrained Friesian Stallions and he had no experience with horses. He did not want to order my DVD if he could not train a horse from what the DVD had to offer him. He wanted my opinion – if I thought that from my DVD, he could train these stallions. At first, I thought he was unrealistic and possibly insane, but I did not let on and set out to find out about his natural ability to train them.horsesI asked him some questions:

• I asked him if he had a cat. He said “yes.”

• I asked him if his cat had good house manners. He said “yes.”

• I asked him if he had a dog. He said “yes.”
• I asked him if the dog was well trained. He said “yes.”
• I asked him how is marriage was. He said “happy.”
• I asked him about his children. He said “they were all grown up, happy and doing well in their lives.”
• I asked him how he gets along with people in general. He said “well.”

His responses pointed out to me that he had an extreme leadership ability and that my DVD would most likely work for him. He ordered it and got back in touch with me to tell me that all his horses were doing well and he thanked me for my DVD.The more of these questions you can answer to the positive, the more you can work with bigger challenges. The trick is to be honest in evaluating your strengths. I can help you do this through my blog and my programs. If nothing is working out for you in your relationship with your horse and you want to turn this around, you are optimistic by nature or wanting to become optimistic, then my program will help you on your journey to train your horse and be able to shape his character to fit in harmony with you. Through the process, you will learn how to develop a working bond.I started thinking that there are people who are successful trainers and whose life is mess.

Let’s say the cat is clawing the curtains off the widows because the dog inside is trying to kill the cat, the child is depressed and unhappy because no love is coming their way and there is soon to be a divorce, but the trainer rides like the wind. This in my eyes is not a good reason to have a horse in your life; the horse is not enhancing your overall life like it could be. It is better that the training we share with our horses be a guidepost to create harmony throughout our daily lives. What we learn from our horse should cause us to focus on our intentions to create well-being for us and everyone around us. If you approach your horse in this manner, this will just naturally occur for you without having to work on it.

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From this approach, you are not hiding from life through making a horse perform for you because you feel you have something missing in your own life. Looking to know how to achieve harmony with all things, wherever we go, wakes up the spirit and brings a greater meaning to life and helps the planet to have more peace in it. The empathy you pass on to others grows like the moon’s influence on the ocean, just from walking your walk and keeping your intentions from your heart.If you are new to my blog, please feel free to write to me and ask for my guidance or inspiration. I am here to help you.It is a good idea to pick the right teaching horse on your journey to becoming a trainer of horses. Aggressive horses and people who do not like to lead would not be a good combination. What needs to be present in all horse and human relationships is an inherent compatibility somewhere between them, or it is just not going to work.

I love how horses have the ability to change the character of the person to be more capable of achieving their own personal empowerment as well as to grow empathy for all living creatures. I think of horses as being a college education for life and to recognize what you can do and what you can’t do. This keeps you on the red, red road of life and helps us choose realistic dreams that are truly achievable.

My style of coaching is to inspire and guide you in finding the best part of yourself and to bring out the best side of your horse so you may dance in unity and harmony together.  Horses give us the ability to follow the serenity prayer effortlessly, easily and naturally from the teaching they offer us.

The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

–Reinhold Niebuhr

 

I have always tried to help, in some way, anyone that has asked for help.
But as I go forward I do not want to leave anyone out that does not have money for the courses that I offer. I will now offer two free spots in any of my courses to people in this position. Get in touch with us if you are interested.

Carolyn and Jannie

For my Certified instructors, so you can keep up with what is new, I will give you a spot in my extended programs once a year. I will help all of you by posting your clinic fliers on my blog. There will be a slight administration fee charge only. Also, All my certified instructors can reach me by phone on any horse training that you are already certified in and clinic questions.

My students and people who have known me for even a short time have supported me in my time of need and I want to extent support to you who are out there that would need my support. This is how we can grow together to a new world consciousness.

This winter I am here and have the time to respond to you in the comment section of my blogs. I can’t answer everyone but I read all of your responses. I am here in my office with my mother these days.

I would like it if you wrote more on your daily activities and shared your dreams to bring us closer. I am still catching up on my sleep and feel the love that you have all sent to my mother and myself. The tenderness that you have offered to me and the tenderness that I am expressing to my mother at this time is expressed well in this YouTube, which you probably have seen before. However, it is new to me.

Looking for more comments on the blog. Have a great weekend. Look out for new horse and human sightings and may the horse be with you as you have been there for me.

Warmly,
Carolyn

 

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Clinic Announcements

Tioga Equine Mounted Shooting Clinic – Lori Brown

February 9th, 2013
Brown Family Ranch in Fallbrook, California

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Tioga Equine will be presenting a Mounted Shooting Clinic featuring Lori Brown Smith. The clinic will be held on Feb. 9th, 2013, hosted at the Brown Family Ranch in Fallbrook, California. For more information please contact Sharae  at sharae@tiogaequine.com or 425-923-4839. Clinic size will be limited to 20 people. Participants will have the opportunity to learn about the basics of mounted shooting from a CMSA Women’s World Rifle Champion, fifth generation horse woman, and Carolyn Resnick Method Certified Instructor Lori Brown Smith. Participants will be taken on a journey to the Old West surrounded by panoramic mountain views, beautiful horses, wildlife sightings, and stage coaches! Come join in the fun! Cowboy hats, boots and sense of adventure highly recommended!

 

Liberty Training Clinic – Ruella Yates & Stina Herberg

March 9-10 2013
Spirit Horse Ranch near Oklahoma City
Cost: $185.00

Carolyn Resnick Certified Trainer Ruella Yates will partner with Stina Herberg, a Carolyn Resnick Certified Trainer from the island of St. Vincent in the Caribbean in presenting a 2-Day Liberty Training Clinic at Spirit Horse Ranch!  Individualized instruction in Liberty Training using Carolyn Resnick’s Waterhole Rituals will be appropriate for everyone from beginners to advanced Waterhole Rituals students. I expect a great clinic every time, and I’ve never been disappointed! You will receive information about setting up a Liberty Training program for your horse, and work your horse in the arena without tack with Ruella and Stina’s support and coaching. You’ll learn herd language, and what it takes to become the ultimate Caretaking Leader for your horse.

For more information visit: http://www.libertyfoundations.com

 

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87 Responses to “A Mistake that Many New Horse Owners and Trainers Make and What to do about it”

  1. 38
    Aline Mellema/ IC/ Angel and Vicky/ Netherlands/ ECspring2011/ ICfall2011/ BTWRCmarch2012 says:

    “My style of coaching is to inspire and guide you in finding the best part of yourself and to bring out the best side of your horse so you may dance in unity and harmony together. “

    This is exactly what I feel your guidance brought me… I feel I’m dancing with my horses now using my two left feet! :D JOY JOY JOY!
    Thank you for everything Carolyn! and thank you for this blog.

    Much Love,
    Aline

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    Anki Church says:

    Hi again , best payed job so far as I wrote means it was my best job, not that I was payed the best.
    Anki Church

  3. 36
    Anki Church says:

    Dear Carolyn I loved watching the film you posted with your mom,in fact I watched it twice . I used to work in a small home for people with Alzheimer’s ,it was 7 residents to 3 staff. It was the best paid job I have had so far.
    We used to eat with the residents at meal time , to show how to use the knife and fork.
    I know what you are doing for your mom is helping her so much.
    All my best to you and your mom.
    Anki church

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    Tammy says:

    Dear Carolyn I just want to let you know that I can’t see whether you replied to my post early on in this segment of your blog – for some reason I’ve not been able to see my post and all the responses, Im able to see some responses, not all. I just want to make sure you know I’m not being rude by not replying if there was a reply!

    kindest regards
    always
    Tammy

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    Christy Hall says:

    Carolyn,
    I have only owned three horses so far in my life and I can definitely relate to parts of this blog about owning a new horse and not really knowing what to do. My first horse was older and sweet and wouldn’t give me trouble, but my second horse was a 2 year-old filly that was dominant and smart. She started off respectful and willing, but as we got to figure each other out she realized I had no clue what I was doing and that I was no leader of hers. All she had to do was throw a tantrum when it was time to work and I would let her go. I was young, and unwilling to beat her to get her to behave like people said I should do. So she got away with a lot and continued to behave worse. If only I had know the WHR then I think she would have made an excellent horse. After having her for 4 years I sold her at the urging of my parents. I wish I had known that just sharing territory or leading from behind could have fixed so much.
    On a similar note, now that I do know so much more about horses and how to work with them, I see young girls at my boarding stable making the same mistakes that I did with my previous horse. I don’t want to come off as all-knowing or offend anyone but they do things that are dangerous and I was just wondering how you would approach that? Would you say anything to them or let them figure it out themselves. I try to just be a good example but it is hard to watch young girls abuse their horses simply out of ignorance. I would love to read your thoughts.
    Thank you,
    Christy Hall

    • 34.1

      Dear Christy,
      Public barns can be quite a mixture of people, I have been in many. What I do is stay focused on my horse and stay clear of the drama. You might suggest that you could help the people that are having trouble. My job is to connect with like minded people and help the people who reach out. You being a good example I think this the way to go. Do you have any really good horseman in your barn? If you do keep your focus on them to grow your own skills. After that you really can not afford the interruption to your own growth and connection with your horse.
      Staying in the zone of connection no matter what is going around you is a important charter building tool that needs your full attention and a valuable lesson to empower your personal growth.
      Warmly,
      Carolyn

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        Christy Hall says:

        Thank you Carolyn!
        The best horsewoman at my barn is MaryGaye LeBoeuf and we learn together and support each other with our journeys. She keeps me out of most drama and I will continue to do that. Something that I have been working on and need to continue working on is the “staying in the zone”. I love how you put that and it is a major issue for me and my horse, Nemo, as you may recall from our lesson with you in October. Some days are better than others but Nemo and I inspire each other to work at it and when we are both focused and having fun it is magical.
        Thanks again!
        Christy Hall

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    kristin says:

    Dear Carolyn,

    It seems my greatest struggle with practicing your methods is life’s continual interruptions! If you would ever care to blog on what is reasonable to do with your horses between Thanksgiving and the rest of winter say through March it would be very helpful!
    I will share with you what I have been doing to try to keep the connection. During the winter the pasture is lean so the horses only get 3-4 hours of turn out. They put themselves up around 3:30. I take that opportunity to give them each a tub of senior pellets and we have a mini activity. Depending on the weather and the mood I share territory with one horse while he/she eats for 20-25 min. or until tub is empty. The next day I might ask for waiting before eating. The day after that I might ask for “head up” & “head down” in between mouthfuls.
    Always in the evening at feeding time both horses are invited into their stall. If they are standing too close to the door i ask for a step back and they both are willing to move back.
    I check on them one more time before bed and both horses are asked to wait until I invite them out of their stall and they do. Each horse instead of getting a treat gets one last bit of grain and one gets a small bit of hay. My food aggressive horse has to give me at least 3 seconds of calm waiting. On a good night he can give me 7-9 seconds. One time I made him wait several minutes and he would bob his head up and down, sigh and make a circle, and exhibit impatience. Finally I got 3 good seconds. My mare is very good at waiting without attitude so sometimes i don’t ask her for much. I find that interacting with them in small pockets of time through out the day in winter helps keep the connection active .I t also works with my schedule as an artist. whenever I need a break i check on my horses.
    I also clean stalls and pens in the late mornings and sometimes my mare will come and hang out with me. One time I opened up to her and she was very communicative. She wanted to give me attention and allowed me to pet her & groom her which she usually doesn’t like if it’s my idea. Niki would walk over to me and stand. I would begin to brush her tail. she would walk away. I pretended to look around for something instead of following her. She noticed I didn’t come after her so she turned around and came back. We did this round robin for about 45 minutes with her always coming back to stand next to me and one time she even backed up a few steps so she could be in the right position for me to brush her tail.
    Then she went over to her blanket and picked it up with her teeth and shook it back & forth and dropped it. she does not like to be blanketed at night. So after I saw how smart she was to demonstrate to me that she knew that was her nasty ol’ blanket i laughed and said OK you win. No more Blanket at night!
    Both horses companion walk with me here and there but it when doesn’t interest them they are very clear about leaving .
    Also the mare needed a lot of leading from behind as she has always been balky to move forward. I take every opportunity to move her around in small spaces like her stall and pen during the cold & windy days.
    I feel like I need a little direction with a loosely structured program. something to work into as days become warmer. Anyway I see small adjustments along the way. Maybe this is enough???
    You are right about not wanting anything from your horse. Those moments are when the doors open from them to you. I am learning to trust this more and more.

    Stay warm!

    Kristin

    • 33.1

      Dear Kristin,
      Go back in my blog on the Uberstrichen Exercises this is what you can do with your horse during the winter months and it is enough with enough direction. I also bet that if you would get more lost in Sharing Territory something will inspire you to come up with more ideas than you have already done. You could do some breathing exercises with your horse too. You could heat up a blanket that is warm for you and your horse and share it just take it slowly while she is eating. You could teach your horse to stand still and hold one foot at a time up and then put it down when you ask him or her to. You can work on Eye Contact Exercise. Look at working on developing more of you imagination. Write a journey that you think your horse might write and share it with me.
      When I could not do anything with my horses I could just while away the hours, try to experience this zone. It will help to experience yet another side of life. The “do” is better when you exercise wanting nothing and that becomes enough. When you get back to the “do” you will find that you have changed in a way that is more empowering.

      Warmly,
      Carolyn

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        kristin says:

        Thank you Carolyn. Sometimes the way I receive information is so literal.
        I appreciate your constant efforts to teach the “art” of connecting & not connecting-doing & not doing-choosing & not choosing.
        I can see how my activities were becoming auto pilot for both of us.
        It takes more time for me to feel into what needs to happen which sharing territory provides.
        I tend to get caught up in “I’m not doing enough” and ” I’m supposed to know what I want before I engage with the the horse”.
        Your suggestions are very helpful. I’m going to try and “play around” with some ideas with the option for changes to happen.
        And yes I have your US exercises.

        Kristin

        • 33.1.1.1

          Dear Kristin,
          Thank you for getting back to let me know that you read my comment. There are times you want to know what you are going to do but still you need to check in with your horse to see if your plan is the right subject for your horse. I always have a plan and sometimes it is to do nothing and I wind up doing a lot of training. I let the currents guide me.
          The Uberstreichens can be a full time job for the winter.
          They will advance your horse’s training and make a “horseman” out of you.

          Warmly,
          Carolyn

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    Hi Carolyn,

    I tried to watch the video you posted on GoFundme but it said it was private and I couldn’t view it. I think the setting on Youtube is private. Can you change to unlisted or public so we can see how well your mom is doing.

    So glad to hear she is doing better.

    I hope you are getting the rest you need.

    Miss you,

    Linda

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    Leanne Tindal says:

    Hi Carolyn,

    One thing I really enjoyed about my trip to California was the chance to see so many birds of prey. Around here we have quite a number of smaller birds that eat meat (kookaburras and magpies for example) but I rarely see the larger birds. Very occasionally a Wedge Tailed Eagle pair glide around for a short while and all the other birds disappear and it becomes incredibly quiet very suddenly but the eagles visit only very occasionally. There were so many larger birds of prey around Escondido it was wonderful to see and that huge number of crows coming over each afternoon was incredible.

    I have a question about my homework with Tannis.

    The extra walking time before we start the UEs is making a huge difference with her. She is really relaxing now during that walking time vs being relaxed towards the very end of the session.

    When we practice slowing down the walk after the first few minutes her head is dropping almost to the ground and staying there for large parts of the circle as we walk. I am not asking her to do this, it is just what happens. She is really stretching over her topline and because it has been so rare to see her stretch in this way I am have been letting her continue to do this in the time before we start the Uberstreichens.

    Because she is doing so much stretching all of a sudden I did just UE # 1 the first day and have been adding one UE per day since the call on Sunday. Today was UE # 3 being included back in again. By the time we got that point Tannis was going around most of the circle with her head down quite low at her medium speed walk. With UE # 2 her head is lifting up as she goes into the halt so that is not really an issue – I can ask for her to put her head down again. WIth UE # 3 often her head is right down anyway so what I have been doing is asking her to lift her head and walk a few strides with her head held higher before asking her to lower it again.

    Should I be asking her not to lower her head quite so much while we are walking around ? Or just continue as we are doing for now ?

    Leanne

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    kate says:

    Excellent post, Carolyn and I love the dog and beautiful child youtube!!
    This will be a good blog post to share with folks that may not know about you yet! I am so excited to bring my horse to work with Ruella and Stina next month! Thanks for everything…

  10. 29
    Leanne Tindal says:

    Hi Carolyn,

    I have been filming most of our sessions this month. Yesterday morning when I checked the camera just before setting it up and getting the horses I found the battery was almost fully discharged. It was not going to last long enough to get anything too meaningful with the horses on film.

    As I was turning around to put the camera back in the stables until I was finished with the horses I noticed that some visitors who have been absent while it was so hot had returned with the slightly less hot weather. I filmed them for a few minutes instead. By the time I was finished filming I had two horses behind me wanting to know what it was I found so interesting, LOL.

    They are very beautiful little parrots. I thought you might enjoy them too

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DN3zGUvaOlY

    Leanne

    • 29.1

      Dear Leanne,
      Birds are so amazing. So much energy, ,and celebration for being alive.
      Maybe that is the reason they pop out in some may colors. They are little pieces of art. I hope more colorful birds come to California. Sometimes I see parrots and what a treat. I feed our bird here and my mother and I watch then together.
      Thank you for sending your youtube.

      Warmly,
      Carolyn

    • 29.2

      Hi Leanne,

      I loved the the video of the birds. Thanks for sharing!

      Linda

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    Dear Carolyn, were you able to watch the YouTube I entered on your previous blog showing Marcello’s Feeding Time Plus _ apparently something didn’t work at first and I had to change the settings – looking forward to hearing from you – warmly, Geerteke

    • 28.1

      Dear Geerteke,
      I did and enjoyed it very much. Your horse is so beautiful! Nice focus, gas peddle, and understanding. I still want to see the video of your horses behavior at the barn.

      Warmly,
      Carolyn

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    Ruella Yates says:

    Dear Carolyn,
    Your post was especially helpful to me this week. Thank you for posting my clinic information! Stina Herberg, Susan Smith and I will joyfully represent you March 9-10, teaching The Waterhole Rituals at Spirit Horse Ranch. :)
    Sending strength, love and light from the Great Plains,
    Ruella Yates

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    Amanda says:

    Dear Carolyn,

    How should I contact you about info on the free seat I won? (Post #11, Amanda and Trinket)
    I’d prefer the insider seat (Going all the way with it!) but will be just as happy with the extended seat as well!

    Also if you need me to prove I’m on disability (ontario, canada disability) I can, just need to know how to contact you?

    Contact me please, whenever you have time!
    Amanda

    • 26.1

      Dear Amanda,
      You can contact me by going to the top of the page where it says contact me.
      You are in my course no charge if qualify for the class regarding the connection you have with your horse. You will need to pay the fees for registrations. Write to the office and tell them what I told you and they will take care of you.

      Warmly,
      Carolyn

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    Dear Maggie,
    I do not think your horse is unhappy with his life if he can do as he wishes and you ride him where he would like to be ridden and get off when he gets upset. You have no fears that you should not listen to. You have common sense. Don’t get yourself hurt to over come your fears and keep your horse if you can afford to.

    Warmly,
    Carolyn

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    Dear Janet,
    They call this part of the journey with our parents the long good bye.
    I never was prepared for this and here I am in the middle of it pulling out all the formulas of making the smile happen in each moment for the both of us.
    My mother is doing a great job. I am so luck and appreciative. I am here doing eight hour shifts with sleep at night and feeling truly blessed from the support I have from my friends,fans and students. I send to you love and light and anything that would brighten your day.

    Warmly,
    Carolyn

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    Hi Carolyn
    Before I saw your last reply I kind of realised that myself. Yesterday the horses were in the yarded area near the work area when I got there, so I switched it around & took her out in hand down the road a little to where she looks. Where I had stashed many carrots & her food bowl. It worked out very nicely. She calmed down so much she was then able to forage in the verge for new shoots that are growing (even though its freezing here). & then walk back reeeaaallly slowly. I smiled & laughed a lot more.
    You have such a gift for spotting the one thing people do that blocks them! You are 100% right in my case. I am aware of it, but I fall off the wagon sometimes… but then it is how you get back on isn’t! Thank you so much. I shall keep evoling & I’ll be in touch.
    Erica

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    This reply was supposed to be under my original post… never mind! :)

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    Dear Erica,
    I got your message and am glad you got back the connection on your own.
    See yourself as resourceful and then the solution is easy for a child to solve. This way seeing yourself as child that can, you will not try to accomplish to much at a time with your horse. You ask “what can I do today that would be safe and still be able to move froward at the same time?” If that is too much do what feels good only and wait for evolution to move you forward and it will! Another one is to put yourself in your horses “shoes” and you will understand better where you horse is coming from.

    Unrealistic expectations will cause you problems.

    Warmly,

    Carolyn

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    Elke OSTERBURG says:

    OK i am sorry, i never used computer in my live so i am quiet an ignorant about what, where, how

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    Dear Elke,
    At the top of this page is a tab that says Info and contact me. You can leave a message there and someone will get back to you.

    Warmly,
    Carolyn

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    Thank you so much for the help & advice.

    Thought you might appreciate this very short video from today…

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyq4jxRPM2w

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    Carol Caddes, California says:

    Hi Elodie,

    It was a treat to watch your video. Loved the ST and how Sami entertained himself with the whip. The cat was delightful–the connection was so sweet.
    Looks like you will be having fun with them.

    Warmly,
    Carol

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    Carol Caddes, California says:

    Hi Molly,

    Loved hearing about Willard. Could relate to trusting what is…a spiritual exercise for me, a learning from Carolyn and working with horses…with broad application in the rest of my life.

    Thanks for sharing,
    Carol

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    susanne meehan says:

    Dear Carolyn
    Thank you for your reply.
    I will try and answer you questions as good as I can
    I have been around horses as a child and always felt a great connection. Even as a child I always wanted a partnership with a horse and it never felt right to force them into anything. I loved the stories of people that had this special bond with their horse, like the black stallion, or some stories about Indians who ride their horses bareback and bit-less.
    Then I went to study and work, got married and had a family…and only about ten years ago horses came back into my life.
    I took on a rescue pony and a foal who’s mother died when he was 5 weeks old. I trained them both and have a beautiful bond with them. The foal is now 10 years old. I can ride him bit-less and bareback, but I don’t have that much interest in riding any more. the little pony had a terrible start in life and when I got her as a two year old, she had no trust in any humans. She now know what I am thinking and my children were able to ride her, after we found the way to her heart.
    When I read your book “Naked liberty” it brought back so many memories about how I used to be around horses when I was a child and I felt that I finally had found a “soul-mate”… somebody that felt what I used to feel. I love your thinking and approach. I have been in the extended circle in 2011, but couldn’t give it as much time then, as my father in law was very sick at that time.
    I am hoping very much do do a course with you in person, maybe even this year. I will think about the call. I know it would help me greatly, but I am trying to save money for a flight to America to meet you personally.
    I see my horses every day. They are stabled at night. But often I have only the time to do the basics with them.
    “Hailey”, this is the mare I want your help with, is a very spirited mare. She looks for my attention a lot. She comes to me once she sees me, even out in the open field. She companion walks, I can groom her at liberty, lifting her feet is getting a lot easier, and I can put on or take off a rug… all at liberty. I feel that she looks for my leadership and I sometimes feel that she is challenging it. But even though she tolerates my touch, I can see that she just doesn’t like it.
    Carolyn, I hope this wasn’t too long for you and you can make sense of it.
    Thank you so much for all your comments and the time you have for all of us.
    warmly,
    Susan

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    susanne meehan says:

    ps.

    when I said “I don’t like riding him now very much”, it was meant more in a way that I just enjoy being with them and riding is not that important.
    Thanks
    Susan