The way we approach our horses in every day actions can make a big difference. My parents, when I was growing up, suggested that I look at how my horse sees my behavior and to look deeply into how my behavior could affect my horse’s attitude towards me.
Practicing this, to this day, causes me to approach relationships in my life with more consideration. The more I think of what my horse needs the more he surprises me with what he has to give back.
I went to look at a new horse that might be coming to my ranch. It was so touching, after spending less than an hour with him, when I went to leave he called out to me like a horse does when his best friend or his mother is being taken away from him. He will be coming here for my Bitless riding course.
I am not going to tell you about him except that it was a momentous meeting. As time goes by with my work with horses I am surprised how the door into another dimension continues to open wider.
When I have experienced this kind of connection with a horse, it gives me the strength to take whatever time it takes to grow the bond slowly by setting time aside each day to give this kind of a horse my full attention. The gifts of connection are going to be greater than anything I could have ever planned out.
I see well meaning and loving horse owners continuing to push the envelope and ruin a perfectly magical connection with their horse, which they have a strong bond with, from wanting more than the initial magic that they experienced.
This new guy that is coming to my ranch is a four year old stallion that has more than enough energy and spirit for several horses. When we looked at each other for the first time I had a deep desire to lay my forehead on his. He was at Liberty and has not been handled much. It was a bit scary but I listened to this new dimension that I have stepped into with this new soul that I just met. I tested him on his gas pedal and when I signaled him to move away from me, very easily, he jumped away like a gazelle with the agility and grace of Rudolf Nureyev, a famous ballet dancer that was known for his leaps – he looked as if he could defy gravity by hanging in the air more like a gazelle than a human.
It surprised me for a second. At that moment I was puzzled in regards to his attitude towards me. Was he afraid? Was he dangerous? Could he hurt me if I tried to get close to him? I had no idea who he was or his intentions. I didn’t know, but in this new dimension I felt a burning desire to lay my forehead on his, so I did. What I felt I could do with him I would never think I could accomplish with a stranger that I had just met for the first time, though it would be nice. I will add this to my bucket list of wishes – to share this kind of connection with humans one day.
I laid my forehead on his and he felt giving, willing and soft. He had the softest gaze I have ever experienced. It was the kind of gaze that I hope I will experience through my own eyes one day. He wanted this close connection with me; one that he has never had with another human in his life and I wanted it too. This is what I mean by a cross species bond. Stay tuned for our next meeting, which I hope will take place soon, here at my ranch.
If there are any students in my course that feel this deep connection with a horse that at this time seems not to be unfolding the way you hoped, just know that the connection is there and it will unfold easier if you do not doubt the initial connection that you started with. Give it time. Know that this time is precious and has great meaning to being able to carry you to a new magical dimension.
If your horse is new to his surroundings it will take awhile for your horse to adjust. Use your imagination, imagine that you have the connection you want right now, feel this feeling and stay with it throughout the day. To peal away the veils that stand in your way, park yourself in neutral with an open optimistic heart and this will allow the bond to grow, as it will.
Forget about all the rituals that you need to address in this course and just take it one step at a time; like Trinity is doing in his new exercise, standing in neutral and giving up his agenda.
Have a great weekend! Watch out for new horse and human sightings and may the horse be with you.
Here is a video explaining the forehead greeting, Hongi, in New Zealand
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The next Marchador Level call is April 14th and Honey Level call is April 16th!
Connect to the Very Heart of Your Horse
May 11-12, 2013 – Chilliwack, BC, Canada
with Sharolyn Wandzura ~ Carolyn Resnick Suggested Trainer
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Horses at Liberty Clinic
May 25-26, 2013 – Santa Fe, NM, USA
with Susan Smith ~ Carolyn Resnick Suggested Trainer
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