Carolyn Resnick Horsemanship: Liberty Horse Training

The Foundation for All Equestrian Pursuits Through the Horse-Human Connection.

Disinterested?Is my horse lazy, a brat, cranky, bored, out of sorts, not interested or rude? 

Maybe none of these things are true. Maybe you feel this way because your horse is not fitting in with your plans for the day?

Maybe, your horse might say that YOU are uninspiring, lacking desirable leadership, boring, out of sorts, or controlling.

Name calling will just create more separation. How to get out of this pattern is to stop looking at your horse’s performance as not being up to your expectations and start working on a better relationship and a better leadership approach with your horse.

The focus of training needs to be on how to create the dance rather than what needs to be fixed.  My blog and online programs can help you and your horse to find the best part of each other.

Honey and LibertySometimes your influence may have created these undesirable responses in your horse. If this is the case there is a way to bring your horse to be happy and connected with you rather than causing your horse to respond negatively to your direction.

Any of these undesirable attitudes are a way for your horse to let you know that he does not feel that you have approached him in a way that inspires him to follow your lead.  These attitudes are usually created by not knowing how to interact with your horse so that these behaviors do not happen.

If these attitudes were present in your horse before you arrived to the stable, because your horse is having a bad day, then you would be correct to call him these names.  However, doing so will not empower you or your relationship with your horse.  It’s best to leave him alone on these “bad” days.

When is a horse considered rude?

LibertyBefore I answer this question let me know your opinion in what you would consider to be rude behavior in a horse and why you think your horse is rude.  I will be waiting for your response.

For everyone who responds to this question, we will offer a free webinar on this subject. Just make sure to leave us your email so we can send you the webinar information.

Have a great weekend!  Be on the lookout for new horse and human sightings and may the horse be with you.

Warmly,

Carolyn

 

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96 Responses to “Free Interactive Lesson with me in how to Approach Horse Training”

  1. 78
    Sarah says:

    Hi Carolyn,
    Sometimes I’m not really sure if I should classify something as rude or if it is just my horses’ way of saying they don’t like something! However, there are two times when I would definitely consider their behavior rude, (1) when they push themselves into my personal space after being asked to keep a polite distance, and (2) if they try to grab hay from my (the lead “horse’s”) arm.
    Looking forward to learning more! Thank you.

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    Barb Fenwick says:

    Thanks for the webinar offer. Barbandspirit@gmail.com

    We so often set ourselves up to receive rudeness,as we perceive it, from the horse. If we take behaviour at face value,I feel rudeness doesn’t come into play, I feel our experiencing rudeness is just a behaviour, and how we observe, respond and help to divert that “wrong energy” into a more harmonic one, is more productive than a label…it’s just a horse being and doing what they feel is appropriate or allowed in their world.
    So..what is rudeness…an opportunity to find a way to help us become better communicators.
    Barb

  3. 76
    Anne says:

    I believe a horse is being rude when he does not respect your space. Would love to see the webinar on the subject. Thanks

  4. 75
    Carine says:

    Rude is when I bring her out of her stall and her attention wonders. When I am riding and going by the door distracts her so much she turns her head away, when she is more focused on her treats than on paying attention to me. I have discovered that with horses, every little thing matters, if I give an inch and “understand” a lapse in attention, she takes an arm and it is a slippery slope. This means that I have to give her my full attention too. It is just that the boundary between what we take as ok or insignificant in terms of a deviance from respectful behavior in relation to humans is different with horses. I may choose my battles with my kids, but with my mare, every step matters. I am not saying that I should be controlling everything just that I have to pay attention to every step, as soon as we get out of the stall. She requires my full attention if I am to receive hers. If she has her nose in my immediate space, that is rude. I need to let her know it is not ok because one day that nose or insignificant move will cause damage. Every little gesture matters and needs to be focused.

  5. 74
    Kiana says:

    Dear Carolyn,

    I have had this question in my mind for a few days now.. Is there a certain way I should leave after i’m done sharing territory with my horse ? Do I just get up and leave

    Kiana

  6. 73
    Pat Lawrie (Insider's Circle 2010) says:

    I don’t see it as much of an issue of “rudeness” as I feel it is more of a training or awareness or leadership issue. For example, if one of my horses does not come when called, I feel I haven’t gotten the bond in tact before asking. I always try to get the bond going by “saying hello” first to see if there will be an active interaction. If I get an “adios”, I will go to one of my other 5 horses. I will usually blame myself for any other unwanted behaviors if they do happen. And then I seek to improve myself and my leadership and the unwanted stuff usually disappears.

    I recently took on a rescue mare who was treated very badly and used in the Mexican charreadas for roping her legs year after year. She was half starved and had a 3 month old filly. She didn’t have much use for humans at all and couldn’t even look a person in the eye, always turning her head away and hated to be touched. She has come a long way in a fairly short period of time and now always looks forward to her interaction with me. I didn’t consider it rude of her to behave this way. I knew I just had to show her a better way and give her a better life. And I really didn’t need a 5th horse! But there she was and I love her.

    I look forward to the Webinar.

    Pat in Mexico

  7. 72
    Ginny Carr Los Osos, California EC Holly says:

    Dear Carolyn,

    I had to come on your blog again to share this video I know you will love, since it is a song about All God’s Creatures. A friend sent it to me and I thought you and your blog followers would especially like it. Hope it is OK to put here and hope you can delete it, too, if this is not the place to share it!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=-iP27eatYxE&feature=share

  8. 71
    Kendra Chavez says:

    Hi Carolyn,
    Thank you for the offer of a webinar, my email is kenny66c@yahoo.com.

    I find it rude when my mini paws the ground when I arrive with the grain bucket, or when I’m sharing territory with him and he starts nipping at my arms, feet or hands (he quickly gets sent away for this). My riding gelding will become more focused on other “herd members” when they move away from him when we are out riding or when he is in the corral and he doesn’t pay attention to me or my safety. My other gelding I have never experienced rude behaviors from :)

    Thank you again,
    Kendra

  9. 70
    Nayori says:

    I have one horse who may well step on my foot when I’m leading him on a rope. It hasn’t happened but I have to be careful. And I feel that that would come from ‘rudeness.’

  10. 69
    Wendy says:

    Hi Carolyn,
    If my horse is in a stressful situation she is inclined to try to push past me, not seeming to care if she runs into me on the way. I have probably allowed this to develop by moving rather than have her get caught up in a wire fence.

  11. 68
    Alexandra Lalieu (Neversink, NY) Prince Sahran EC Spring '13, IC Fall '13 says:

    Thank you for offering me another treasured opportunity to learn from you, Carolyn!
    Rude? Or wanting to feel safe by determining who will be leader in this situation?
    I would like to learn how I can become well-versed in Horse Culture(andalso Human Culture, because we have so much in common!)…a person who lives in a state of joy, becoming an oasis of peace for humans and animals and plants alike… who understands that I need to EARN, in each present moment, my horse’s trust, friendship and privilege to be chosen by him/her as a leader.
    I believe that if I study the Waterhole Rituals Path, I may become “grounded” and so confident in (Divine) Self-awareness, that my horse, and indeed all sentient life, no longer feels separate from my self…
    Respectfully,
    Alexandra & “Sahran”
    Spring ’13 EC, Fall ’13 IC
    atlalieu@gmail.com

  12. 67
    Susan Williams /UK /IC /Magic says:

    Dear Carolyn

    Thank you as always for a very interesting blog.
    “The focus of training needs to be on how to create the dance rather than what needs to be fixed.” This is what I have learnt from doing courses with you.
    I don’t usually think in terms of my horse being rude, as this has too much human interpretation of blame, rather as unwanted behaviour when around me. A horse could be thought of as being ‘rude’ because he does not see me as a leader so he is not focused on interpreting my boundaries. Examples of this might be pushing into my space when I have food.
    A horse will not be ‘rude’ if all the heartfelt strings of connections are present; Bond, Trust, Respect, Willingness and Focus. Then there will be the dance!

    Susan

  13. 66
    Kate says:

    This may sound a little silly but I consider it rude when my horse intentially pops me in the face with his tail. I could be wrong but i am pretty sure she meant to do that. :)

  14. 65
    Ginny Carr Los Osos, California EC Holly says:

    Hi Carolyn,
    Thank you for the offer of a webinar, my email is gcarr4864@charter.net. My horse Holly is rude sometimes, pushy, trying to walk faster than I want on a lead, showing me her rear end. That one makes me laugh because it feels like she is a two year old having a tantrum. Sometimes she stomps her foot! When I taught Kindergarten there were times when kids did something “rude” and they might wonder what “rude” meant. Usually they could learn, over time, how to play and work with the other kids and get along nicely. So I think the problem with Holly’s rude behavior is that sometimes I am not clear with her or hold her to high enough standards. I need to learn Horse language so that I can read her better and notice the things she does with her nose and ears and body. And I need to be clear with my body, and consistent and predictable, so she can be sure that I am in charge around here! We have made a lot of progress and will keep it up every day. Thank you very much for all you do.
    Ginny Carr

  15. 64

    Dear Carolyn,

    When I thought about rude behaviour in horses, I couldn’t easily come up with a form of behaviour I would consider rude. So I did some more thinking and found out that I just don’t see certain types of behaviours as ‘rude’ anymore. Instead I now see them as a signal that I need to work on my leadership skills some more. When my leadership skills are not in place, a horse will automatically start testing the boundaries. Not because he wants to be ‘rude’ on purpose, but because it is his nature to look for the leader. If I am not the leader he needs, then for the horse there is no other solution than taking over leadership himself, as the safety of the ‘herd’ (even if that herd only consists of him and me) is crucial for his survival. No safety and security without a leader.
    Years ago there were lots of behaviours I would have called ‘rude’, but nowadays I find it much more fun to see them as interesting phenomena to keep my awareness sharp. So it’s a shift in perception.

    Having said all this, I’m still only human ;-) so I do still get that irritated feeling once in a while of experiencing a certain behaviour as rude, for instance when I open a fresh, new pasture and our herd boss Birki rudely rockets himself past me to get to the green grass, despite me asking him to wait politely and enter the pasture at a quiet walk. Then I sometimes think AAAAARRRGGGHH! but at the same time I know it’s entirely up to me to change his behaviour. Isn’t it great how our horses keep us awake and focused :-)?

    Hugs,
    Marja

  16. 63
    Anna says:

    I’m not sure that horses have the concept of rudeness so much as their way of communication that doesnt fit with our idea of good manners. We have a new horse who is bargy around food and has turned his back end on my son in the field ( with intent ) but I guess he just sees us as ranking below him.

  17. 62
    Lindi says:

    After years of living harmoniously with our gorgeous but aging herd (my beautiful Dusky is thirty this year) we decided to bring 6 year old Blessed Boy to live with us. His boundless energy and enthusiasm are delightful(mostly) and definitely not intentionally rude – but perhaps not as careful with myself or my daughters as I have become used to. Looking forward to this new journey. Thanks for you generous sharing and beautiful blog. Lindi (Wilderness -South Africa)

  18. 61
    Nicoleta says:

    I think a horse can become rude if his limits were not properly established, by men or other horses. If he relizes his limits, when the chance is given, the horse doesn’t learn to be rude. I do associate roodness with the previous experiences that the horse has.

    I think that, in a way, this means that rudeness, when occurs, is an opportunity to establish your limits. The more you do that, less will happen in the future.

    Now,to answer the question, when I think of rudness, I see the horse pushing into me – with the head, shoulder, hips, the bending and, of course, all the other behaviours that could prejudice my safety.

  19. 60
    Kaya, Cairns Australia, IC, Puds (Puddles) says:

    Hi Carolyn

    I found it rude the other day when i went in to say hello to my horses and puds gave me a second of a hello and once he realized i had no food he went straight over to the gate waiting for his food. It felt a bit rude… but i don’t think he saw it like that, as he was just keen for dinner i guess.

    wollaby@gmx.net

  20. 59
    jo king says:

    Hi Carolyn

    Rudeness is a human trait,I’m not entirely sure that in a horses psyche that they would understand that term!!However,my young Irish Draught does like to invade my space a little more than I would like but when I watch him with my older Draught he does exactly the same thing.Interestingly though when we are playing with the rituals he is very respectful but as soon as I am pushing the barrow round the field or just hanging out with them this is when he will head butt me so hard he nearly knocks me over!!!But again,I see him do this with Kas.So,is he showing rude behaviour or is this just his way of getting mine and kas’s attention?Or is he being playful?I have spent many hours trying to work it out!!!

    jo.

  21. 58
    Tamara Blits says:

    Great blog! I believe a horse isn’t rude. He may be trying to tell you something. people are the rude ones. You can talk to horses, if you know , and feel where they’re at. I love the way my horse teaches me. I can’t say he is rude. I can correct what I think is rude. It’s the nature of horses. They talk to you, with what they are born with. You just have to understand.

  22. 57

    Rude … I feel there is always a reason, my horses do not seem to just be rude, just because they decide to be. There are so many factors that play a role which I feel need to look at before I take an action. I am very interested to hear / see how you approach this. Thank you.

  23. 56
    Cathy says:

    We have a gelding who is out 24/7 in a grass pasture and is alpha gelding of a herd of 20 horses. Most of the time he is respectful of us, but sometimes when we are leading him, he decides he wants grass and just pulls away from us and goes where he wants (rude and potentially dangerous). He doesn’t go far and we can catch him right away, but he goes none the less. He is also very, very, very difficult to get into a trailer and runs away from us as we try. cathy.wilson@sbcglobal.net Thank you.

  24. 55
    Marsha Kessler says:

    Dear Carolyn,

    Like a few others here I started a list of what I would rude behavior but when I looked at it I realized that the horse was telling me things and I was not listening. I think perhaps rude is a human thing and horses do not suffer from rudeness. That is not to say that all of their behaviors are desirable, only that I do not believe that they are ever intentionally rude.

    Marsha

  25. 54
    Ruth says:

    Hi,
    I have two horses. I can’t think of a time when the one has ever been rude. The other one? Many times I ask him not to get in my space, and he does it anyway because he wants me to do something for him. Like feed him, give him a treat, play with him or otherwise entertain him. He buts me with his nose or pushes on me with his shoulder. This is not safe!

  26. 53

    This was sent to me via email and I wanted to share it… Thank you Barb.

    I enjoy your posts! Thank you for being so generous with your information and sharing your knowledge. I have a new mare and we have been working together on our relationship.

    She is very sensitive and during ground work she usually moves away
    with the lightest touch from me, whether it’s on her nose, chest, shoulder or hip. But I consider it rude when she enters my space uninvited, and especially when she whacks me with her head if I don’t duck.

  27. 52
    Cheryl says:

    I have 4 horses and given the opportunity I think they all could be rude at times. I try to be a step ahead and avoid “rudeness”. However, if I’m not paying attention, my young gelding picks up on it immediately. He will be rude and nudge me with his nose. He is very impatient and doesn’t like his ears cleaned or his mane brushed and will rudely toss his head. He is third in the herd hierarchy but he will be rude and try to push his way ahead of the two more dominant individuals if I don’t manage the situation. This rudeness is the most dangerous and I’m not certain how to deal with it. So I love this blog and look forward to finding answers.
    Thanks,
    Cheryl

  28. 51

    Hi Carolyn

    Thanks for this great blog

    I can not remember when one of my horses were rude.
    I can only see that they sometimes want it all their way, or a bit annoying.

    When I see the word “rude”, it could be for me “they bite me on purpose”, or intentionally bother me.
    But honestly i find that it is all a game of their ranking.
    So, I find it difficult to give this to a good response.

    I think the horses sometimes can be rude in the “word rude of humans”.
    like to day when I bring the hay out in the pasture.
    I was almost finished and i promises the animals extra goodies for Animal day. Well the seems to know because the whole ride with the hay car the walking behind me and say heee, where are the goodies. But the were polite wayting and walk behind me, the get the extra goodies :-)

    But Bo, one of my horses, came to me and wanted more. I said no, that’s enough, but was a little tired and did not look good at her intention.

    She pushed me so with her nose in the electric fence. OUCH that hurt i say loud . She really looked at me like OE, this is bad, and i saw here make a excuses in here body language.

    I can think…., but rather not.

    The had A good Animal Day and nice goodies, me to :0)

    Lots of love Monique

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    Debbie says:

    Would love to see the webinar!

  30. 49
    Debbie says:

    Some examples of rude behavior.

    1. Pulling away when online.
    2. Coming forward to eat without waiting to be asked.
    3. Walking in front of a person when being led.

  31. 48
    Sasha says:

    Hello Carolyn,
    I found your book Naked Liberty & blogs shortly after getting my first horse in 20 years. He was very dominant when I first got him and did many things that one might consider rude such as turning around and threatening to kick if I wasn’t going where he thought I should be, getting pushy and explosive at gates, being pushy and demanding about food, knocking you back by rubbing his head on you and generally not respecting your space. He always had his ears back if people were around, even took treats with his ears back. He could be quite reactive & dangerous when you asked him to do things that might start to resemble work, like walk on a lead, lunge or even let me clean his feet. Thanks largely to what I’ve learned from your work I recognize he was just taking advantage of us not asserting control of our own space and taking on the role of leader. I think rudeness is a human emotion that is misapplied to horses who are simply true to their nature and the herd dynamics that allow them to survive in the wild and that in the absence of a fair leader they will assume leadership or dominance in order to meet their needs. Thanks to lots & lots of sharing territory and continual work with the other waterhole rituals I have established myself as a fair leader and have a beautiful and evolving relationship this amazing creature who now waits at gates, respects my space even around food, chooses to spend time with me and will leave and move out of my way when I ask him to. We still have a long way to go before we hit any trails but enjoy the journey at the pace he is willing to give me.
    Thank you for sharing your gift Carolyn, I look forward to the webinar,
    Sasha

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    Erica Dixon UK Izzy: EC spring '11, BTWHR's Dec 12; spring 13 IC says:

    Hi Carolyn – what a great idea to get interactive & have a webinar. I asked myself: What is the opposite of rude? The simplest answer is to be polite. I thought about how a horse thinks versus how a human thinks because humans can be rude in ways that horses have no concept of. After that I thought about the difference between asking a horse to do something for you – to perform versus not asking the horse to perform. A horse isn’t being rude if he doesn’t understand what you are asking or if you are asking too much of him.

    Example of rudeness: At liberty, sharing territory a horse may become rude once he or she feels the bond. It is like a conversation: Are you the leader? Or am I the leader? Who’s in charge here? I’m going to see if I can push your boundaries a little, or a lot! It depends on their nature. So the rudeness is things like invading my space when I haven’t asked the horse in or softened to allow; pushing for food/treats; thinking the food in my hand is theirs for the taking; nudging me when I’m sitting down reading my book; pushing me; pushing my book around. Things like that. I see horses get rude at bucket feeding times too, but not mine! :)

    Best wishes

    Erica
    homeopath@ericadixon.co.uk

  33. 46
    Catherine says:

    Hi Carolyn,

    I feel horse is rude when they:
    – Cut off your path when walking together or try to herd you to open a gate
    – Walk through you trying to get somewhere
    – Don’t wait for permission to eat food when I bring it and lay their ears back when attacking the food

    Regards,

    Catherine

  34. 45
    Anki Church says:

    Dear Carolyn

    Some of you may know I have a very intelligent and opinionated horse called Ina.
    Her default setting is ” I am the boss” . I am sure she had no idea humans would consider her behaviour rude.

    ankichurch234@btinternet.com

    Anki Church

  35. 44
    joanna blake says:

    Hi Carolyn, thank you for your post, i enjoyed it alot.

    In answer to your question an example of rude was today I spent time grooming and rubbing Sun where she tells me she would like it, intertwined with tending to some tic sores she has on her mane (always a bit of a struggle) done with carrots and pauses. When she saw me coming she nickers to me which tells me that overall the daily ritual is worth the bit of pain around the sores.

    Afterwards I offered a groom and rub to her companion, a pony Sun bosses around but the bond is very strong between them. The example of rudeness was when Sun tried on three occasions to move the pony away from me. Each time she did that I moved Sun out of the space the pony and i were occupying and she stopped attempting after a few minutes.

    I look forward to the webinar,
    best,
    joanna

  36. 43
    Blair says:

    Hi Carolyn, I just finished your book, Naked Liberty, and loved it so much,thank you! My horse is pushy but I’m sure I created the problem because he didn’t have it when I got him. When I lead him back to his pasture or just on a walk, I will hand graze him at certain places along the way. When its time to move on I say “come along now” then pull his halter , which he used to respond to easily. Now he gets carried away with eating and ignores my requests until I feel I’m in a tugging war. I have started to carry a riding crop to tap him under the neck with and now hes starteng to kind of ignore that too.I want him to have some of this yummy grass but not sure how to get him to respond better when it’s time to go.

  37. 42
    claire preddy says:

    Hi Carolyn,
    my immediate response to your question was to list what I considered to be rudeness but then a funny thing happened. I found myself looking at the things I would have listed: ears back and snapping, pushing at me with their noses, coming into my face as not rudeness but communication or opinion. It made me reflect that maybe what I was doing appeared rude or inconsiderate to horses. It has made me realise that I need to stand back and analyse what I am doing; how much I consider their wants, at times when I would automatically think they were being rude…… Myabe I am too quick to think’rude’ instead of thinking ‘what did I just do? What might they be trying to communicate?’ Food for thought I think …….
    Kind regards,
    Claire

  38. 41

    Hi Carolyn and all: What I have learned so far in studying the waterhole ritual is how to feel when there is rudeness coming from the horse. To me this feels like a push or a jangly energy coming into my space. The push usually will want to push me out of the space I am in at the moment. This is my definition of rudeness. But no judgement on it! That is the other thing I feel I have gotten from working with the WHR.

    I am so excited to be working with Linda Salinas this weekend to deepen my understanding and practice of the WHR!!

  39. 40
    Aspasia says:

    Hello Carolyn,

    Rude is acting in order to harm or insult intentionally. It is a conscious choice.
    I don’t believe that horses have this kind of ability or intention in their nature.

    I also don’t consider rude someone who doesn’t have a choice to act differently because he was never taught.

    Whenever my horse shows “rude” behavior I am looking for what I have done wrong and it usually is that I didn’t take the time to let things unfold, from approaching him and reading his mood, to haltering, to asking him to move.

    When horses test our leadership from time to time, it is not rudeness. It is part of their nature. It has to do with survival and all we can do about it is to develop our awareness and our ability to be in the moment. For it would be rude to call ourselves leaders after we have lost territory :-)

    Aspasia

  40. 39
    Lois says:

    When he pushes me into the wall with his nose or off my seat.

  41. 38
    Leanna Kielian says:

    Carolyn,

    I am pleased to say that this is not something that has happened to me in a very long time, but to have a horse rub you into a wall is in my opinion certainly a statement about how they feel about you. Sort of squashed like a fly and it certainly was no accident. I am guessing that was an ultimate display of how a horse can be rude.

    Having said that I would say that I think people are quite often rude to horses and don’t even realize it and yet they expect the horses to accept our rude behavior and certainly not to question it. Respect is a two way street and we all need earn it, practice it and reward it.

    It is my current view that the more you are aware of your own actions/presence as well as the energy surrounding the horses the easier it is to create and keep a healthy balance.

    I feel that it is when we are not aware of our surroundings and lack presence or have our mind busy on issues outside of the barn, is when horses may become pushy, question or choose to test us and thus they bring us back into the current moment assisting if we “get it” in making us whole again, being emotionally present and physically there.

    Here’s a question…When some of us had an injury or something unexpected happen and we think back…were we truly present and aware of both ourselves and the horses, or had we been distracted in some way by other issues and therefore missed or even ignored, silent but clear messages that we were actually given in advance of the incident?

    I went into the barn a few weeks ago immediately after experiencing a very unpleasant conflict and I did something I later realized was really atypical of me, I failed in my rush to catch up chores in the barn, to make the routine switch into “barn presence.” For me that doesn’t mean I don’t have concerns enter the barn with me, it means they are consciously acknowledged, but also acknowledged is, that the barn has no need to experience any negativity surrounding my issues. But on that day, I somehow completely stayed in the disturbance and True immediately reacted with intensity to the storm of negative energy that I had accidently carried in. She was more than clear that she wanted none of “that” near her(rightly so!) and I was very suddenly awakened from my ugly upset state, brought back into the present moment, transitioned to “barn mode.” It was then that True went right back into a good place. I realized that day how with her and the other horses help, even in the mist of many serious challenges that I have recently been facing that I have actually done a very good job of consciously training myself to make the switch on all those “other” days. The best part however, is that now things are improving overall, the horses are showing me that the switch was ok, but it is so much better when you don’t have to make a switch, and you can have fun and just be.

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    Myra Mackenzie-Fraser says:

    Great blog, thank you Carolyn! My Highland gelding used to tank off when he was confronted with a challenging situation, and while this could be construed as rude, I think he did this when he couldn’t cope with the situation he was in. So if he was fearful or stressed by something, his response was to get out of the situation as quickly as he could. He’s too strong to hold on to, and it became dangerous. We are working hard on building the relationship, because I think that’s the key. Our yearlings, however are very excited by the conetents of buckets(!) and get a bit pushy when it’s dinner time. That’s rude!

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    Jan says:

    Dear Leslie, isn’t Regal lucky to have found you! I can imagine a more misunderstood horse could not have been found had he been in some other hands apart from yours . . . from Rude to Regal, lovely!

    Jan

  44. 37.1
    Jan says:

    Dear Beth,

    my strong lead horse standardbred would never pick up his feet for me when he first arrived, so in his case I think it was trust – I earned his trust and got his feet. My appy, I KNOW that he trusts me, but he has had a hard life of being told what to do and how to do it, and he finds it VERY difficult to give me his feet. From being a ridden horse by others, he has gone to not wanting me to get on him, and yesterday I tried on an extended stockman’s bridle (made into a bitless), thinking he might like it better than the halter I use, and honestly, if he was a person, he would have been hyperventilating. I took it off him, and he settled considerably, but even when I had his usual halter back on, and asked for very simple things, he was still upset internally (not outwardly) because I had put my helmet on with the intention of perhaps getting on him if we felt o.k. He is a very casual, laid back horse to all intents and purposes, but when asked to do something which looks like riding, he becomes upset on the inside.This is a horse I spend every day in his company, either working with or around him and I know that he has never had such love in his life before, yet he is still battling to ‘give’ to me regarding getting on him. I could do it if I insisted, but who wants to insist with your horse? Not me. So, perhaps this is the case with your horse, that in his past there has been trouble, and he finds it difficult to release and trust.

    Jan

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    Jan says:

    Jill, pity you live in another country, or we could arrange a get together and watch them play!! I live in Australia!

    Jan