Carolyn Resnick Horsemanship: Liberty Horse Training

The Foundation for All Equestrian Pursuits Through the Horse-Human Connection.

The Waterhole Rituals come alive, but not from following a recipe of do “this” and “that” and then your horse is magically trained. My Method does not give you the results that you are looking for by doing “this” and then “that” but rather, the benefits of the Method come from your personal approach to what happens in the moment. You start each day with your horse by quieting your activity and your mind.  In this state of being you can tap into your own natural abilities. Being truly aware of the moment and the vibrations that you are sharing with your horse will help you to enter the horse’s world and know the magic that he can offer you as a true teacher. In this awareness you learn to lead through communication and by using your natural instincts.

My Method offers many purposes. One of the first purposes of my Method is how to open your heart and get back to your natural instincts and your creative self. You develop your ability to lead.  You learn how to set limits as a way to train a horse that he will resonate to, where he would choose your leadership over his own. You learn how to choose a course of action that will get the results that you are looking to achieve.

For those students currently in my program, choose an exercise that seems to be the easiest one.  What makes an exercise easy is that you completely understand why you are doing a particular exercise and can clearly see how it will get you the results that you want.

Teddie and OsoOnce you have chosen the exercise, your first step is to pause and wait to see how your horse’s behavior, in the moment, might influence how you are going to approach your next interaction with him. Waiting and observing your horse will put you in the zone to know how to approach your horse at any given moment. When you are in this zone, it is almost like you are on automatic pilot and something is guiding you in how to train your horse. From this approach mistakes will not have a negative impact on your choices. Mistakes will instead have strong benefits.

What occurs in the moment with your horse will let you know what step to take next in order to bring my Method alive. I have lots of exercises to do this. Some will work with you and your horse and others will not. You and your horse get to choose which exercises you want to do. It is easy and fun because you follow the line of least resistance.  Work with what you and your horse resonate with and you can see how that particular exercise will grow the bond, trust, respect, focus, communication and the performance of your horse.  What you are creating with my program is a new you and a new horse.  You will grow an ability to know how to go about building a heart-felt partnership with a horse.

What my current class is learning right now is that my Method is not a walk though program or a paint by numbers class. The first step we take is to look ahead and then figure out how you want to influence your horse so that both you and your horse feel a true heart-felt connection. You wait to influence your horse when you are both in neutral.  In other words, when you have no agenda that would influence the energy of either you or your horse.

The next step is to wait and see where the ball rolls. Does it start with the actions of your horse or with you? If the ball is in your court, then imagine the different approaches that you could take next, and pick an approach.  Remember this is a courtship and not all courtships go smoothly.  Let the moment, your horse, and your caretaking leadership be your guide. Your horse’s response will guide your leadership approach.  Many times you will find that you come up with your own way of approaching the lesson that you want to teach to your horse.

Good leadership practices comes from a “request” not a “demand”. This is a strong place to work from. When it comes to working with your horse in the Waterhole Rituals, working free at liberty while sharing personal space, when you ask him to leave your personal space no matter how he feels about it he must go no matter what, it is not a choice. This builds respect, interest, and desire in your horse to learn and perform. This can be done in a graceful manner. In the future, when you are training your horse from the saddle or on the ground with tack, it will never be necessary to force your horse to perform anything that you ask.

I hope what I am sharing with you is helpful to you in how to approach your horse effortlessly, easily, and naturally.

Have a great weekend!  Be on the lookout for new horse and human sightings and may the horse be with you.

Warmly, Carolyn

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Related posts:

  1. Free Interactive Lesson with me in how to Approach Horse Training
  2. Free Interactive Lesson – Part II – What do you Consider to be Rude Behavior in a Horse?

23 Responses to “Free Lesson on How to Approach Training at Liberty”

  1. 17
    avatar Kristin says:

    Hi Carolyn,

    I was able to tune in online earlier today. Thank you for your answer to my leadership question and rude horse behavior.

    I love what I learn when you give us feedback. I am glad you said what you did about changing a horse’s name to give a better resonance to the horse.

    Maybe because we are such a chatty culture we don’t realize how certain sounds effect us and even our horses!

    I also liked “not interfering with the rhythm of the horse”. I often times watch mine grazing and if I can’t offer something better?…. then I sit in the pasture and share territory knowing they have the best deal going not me!

    Thank you for everything you share with everyone you share.

    Kristin

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    avatar Aline Mellema/ IC/ Angel and Vicky/ Netherlands/ ECspring2011, ICfall2011, BTWRCmarch2012 says:

    So true what you write about your method Carolyn… it has changed my life and my relationship with my horses forever in the most incredible way!
    Much love,
    thinking of you a lot <3
    Aline

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    avatar Jayne Forster NooNoo,IC,UK says:

    Dear Carolyn,
    Love your blog and everything you say is soooo true for us.
    many thanks,
    Jayne and Noo noo

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    Dear Carolyn–thanks so much for another excellent essay. Everything you write has so much meaning for me, and as I ponder on it, new ideas and new energy arise. The biggest part of the lesson for me right now is this:

    “Start each day with your horse by quieting your activity and your mind. In this state of being you can tap into your own natural abilities. Being truly aware of the moment and the vibrations that you are sharing with your horse will help you to enter the horse’s world and know the magic that he can offer you as a true teacher. In this awareness you learn to lead through communication and by using your natural instincts.”

    I believe I do have the natural instincts, but am struggling a bit to get quiet and listen…but that is improving! Without having you to suggest the way, the magic between me and my Galahad would not have been easy to find. With your help, we’re getting there!

    Thank you so much!

    – Kay

    • 13.1

      Dear Kay,
      It is always easier to learn how to do new things through guidance when you can feel your instincts strengthening and evolving.I do not thing there is a better feeling.
      Thank you Kay for letting me know where you are on the journey of new discoveries with your horse and my support.

      Warmly,
      Carolyn

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    avatar joanna blake says:

    hi carolyn, thanks for this post. i love that you highlight that your method isn’t ‘painting by numbers’! that’s what i love about it!
    several trainers i know have advised me in the past to hit my mare when she says no to going forward out on the trail. i don’t and now experiment to see why she pauses – fear or resistance because of something else. when she says no we pause, i breathe and relax and then ask again. the pause allows her to relax and think. most of the time within seconds the reason for not going forward diminishes and she proceeds carefully. occasionally she says “absolutely no way” after several requests and pauses and then we do something else, still adding new little challenges to the daily ride and no friction between us. this approach has awoken her curiosity when out and she waits at the fence each day to go. as your method doesn’t give instructions but is instead an approach, the beauty becomes the experimentation in the moment and everything is the relationship.
    thank you again,
    joanna

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    Dear Carolyn,

    Thank you for a BEAUTIFUL blog topic! Right before I read this blog I was watching the latest video of Mooji – this one: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfnKExTuqxg – , which had in fact the same message as your blog. Coincidence? I like to think it’s synchronicity and similar energies attracting each other.

    I want to tell you about a new ‘dog sighting’ this week, if that’s okay :-) . I have three very lively Jack Russell terriers, one of which (named ‘Bobbes’) always pulls heavily on the leash. He has done so his whole life (he’s now 11) and everything we tried failed, because of his ever present high level of arousal. He just wants to go, go, go!
    A few days ago, when I was in that peaceful, calm state you described in this blog, that state where all creative ideas spring from, I suddenly knew why we had never been able to reprogram Bobbes’ pulling on the leash. We had always approached it with the same attitude we wanted him to get rid of: a tense state of excitement, with lots of ‘No!’s and corrections. And as sudden as I realized this, I also knew the solution, which turned out to be as simple as it was effective: ‘Pull = stop’. We went on our walk and each time I felt the slightest pressure on the leash (caused by Bobbes pulling) I just stopped and waited until Bobbes let go of the pressure all by himself. No pulling whatsoever on my part and none of the corrections or treats often recommended by dog trainers; I just waited for Bobbes to come up with his own solutions (isn’t that also the great thing about the Waterhole Rituals: to simply wait and let the horse figure things out for themselves?). First he tried to keep pulling, which obviousy didn’t bring him anything, as I just stood there as a statue. Then, gradually, I saw a change taking place in him. He had always been mainly focusing on things in the far distance, but now he gradually started seeing and sniffing his close surroundings. And with that new focus he became a lot calmer, and forgot to pull! As soon as he released the pressure and shifted his focus I walked on. With each repetition I saw the lightbulb above his head get bigger and bigger.
    Today we had our second ‘pull = stop’ walk. At the end of this walk he was as light as a feather, calm and relaxed, and stayed perfectly within the no-pulling range of the leash. But what amazed me the most was that in two days he seemed to have changed into a much calmer dog who has discovered a new, interesting world, lying at his feet!
    I hope this story wasn’t too long; I just had the feeling it fits in here somehow ;-) .

    Here’s to new horse, human, dog, cat and whatever sightings!

    Love,
    Marja

    • 11.1

      Dear Marja,
      I read each word. I enjoyed your message. I am sure my readers will also and I wish more people would share their insights. I love Mooji. Thanks you for the care and the love you bring to your horses and to me.
      My dog Apollo likes to run away form home. He also has a great sniffer and likes to sniff as many things as he can. I He is now three years old and has taken to saying on the property. I did not train him in any way he just grew up. I still can not get him to lead with out pulling and I have used your way and it still gets me no results. He is good in his training sessions but not out in public. We are a great comedy act! I need to give him more time for lessons and I am sure it would make the difference.

      Warmly,
      Carolyn

      • 11.1.1
        avatar Ulrike Kraft says:

        Dear Carolyn and Marja,

        so much to the saying “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks!”!
        I didn’t know much about dogs when I got my dingo X, Miss Ebony Wolf Queen of the Forest, 7 years ago. She used to wander around the neighborhood a lot, unlike Apollo it took her 4 years to grow up. (I can’t believe Apollo is already 3! I remember reading your blog when you just got him.) We have 4 dogs and they all learned not to pull on the lead. I didn’t really train them. I’m using an extendable lead so they have a 4m radius around me which gives them quite a bit of freedom. When they reach the end and don’t slow down to stay within and start pulling I call them and if they keep pulling I gently shake the lead to get their attention.

        Thanks to practicing the Waterhole Rituals I am now learning how to let my actions be born from the pause. Like you said in your blog, Carolyn:

        “Once you have chosen the exercise, your first step is to pause and wait to see how your horse’s behavior, in the moment, might influence how you are going to approach your next interaction with him. Waiting and observing your horse will put you in the zone to know how to approach your horse at any given moment. When you are in this zone, it is almost like you are on automatic pilot and something is guiding you in how to train your horse. From this approach mistakes will not have a negative impact on your choices. Mistakes will instead have strong benefits.”

        This is really blowing my mind! Especially since I know it’s true. So it was timely to have Mooji tell me not to try to understand. Thanks for the link.

        Ulrike

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          Dear Ulrike,
          Yes, getting out of your head helps you to find the automatic ability to know how you want to go about communicating with your horse.
          HOw you get out of your head is to wait until something moves you. You might stand their for a long time but it will happen and the answer with come with out thinking about it and you will be in the zone of connection with your horse.

          Warmly,
          Carolyn

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    avatar ian Rowcliffe says:

    Your words – as ever – are music to my ears, Carolyn. And I carry that music to my horses and they respond in kind, endearingly.

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    Hi Carolyn

    Thank you for this beautiful writing,

    I will share your words.

    Lots of love Monique

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    avatar Ulrike Kraft says:

    Dear Carolyn,

    thank you!

    Ulrike

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    avatar Anna-Karin Hägglund , Ameri Kahn, Sweden, EC 2010, 2011,2013, BTWHR dec 2012 says:

    Hi Carolyn!
    I don´t know if you remember, but when I was in Escondido last December i told you all about my dream to start a school of my own. I haven´t done that yet and I don´t know if it will happen, time will show, I am thinking of a school where I have my own building and so on, BUT I have a new work as a teacher, i am working as a special teacher, and it occurd to me that I have a school of my own in the school of the commune. The spec, education teacher decides wich children goes to me and there are a lot of programs that I can chose to work with, but often I don´t feel that those program helps the child. When i first meet a new child we don´t know each other, so that is the first thing we´ll have to work on. After that I have to figure out what the child has missed in his education and after that I have to figure out how to help the child to grow, to understand…There are not one way to help, but it is my job to help the child to find his/hers way to learn, and I love it.

    Being and working with the horses through the waterhole has helped me a lot to evolve my work with the children and to put words on why I work like I do.

    Our horses have moved to a new place and we will ST a lot now till things feel comfortable in the new environment.

    So thank you Carolyn for being YOU!

    From a Sweden in snow and sunshine,
    Anna-karin

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    Checking in so you know I am still here! :) and appreciating your wisdom as always.
    Carolyn B x

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    avatar Elodie Belz (ICC spring 2011, BTWHR December 2012) says:

    Dear Carolyn,

    The journey I have started since I discovered your method is wonderful! I have been practicing the rituals with differents horses in the past 4 years, and with each horse the rituals have been different. At the moment I am working with 2 pony mares. They are mother and daughter, but their characters are totally opposite, and I constantly have to change my approach and my energy with each of them. It is really an amazing learning experience! I don’t see how a walk through programm could work when horses, even within the same family, are so different from each other. So thank you for teaching us how to follow our heart and our feelings Carolyn! It has allowed me to step into the world of horses, and I just love their world.

    Warmly,
    Elodie

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    Beautiful piece of writing Carolyn thank you

    Kind regards
    Geerteke

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    avatar Leslie says:

    Ps. The request in which you speak of is bang on. Through the waterhole rituals, my horse whom had a history of abuse before he was mine, said NO to any play, riding was not a joy. And now because of you, he says YES to everything we explore!! He appreciates the REQUEST, he likes that he has an opinion, that I listen to him. He appreciates mostly that I have built enough confidence through your method to be his leader. It has been an an amazing journey and transformation for us both. We are growing, and loving every minute of it!!

    Big thanks and love,

    Regal and me!

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    avatar Leslie says:

    Carolyn, thank you for calling us back to our instincts, to our childhood, to our love of connection!!
    I love this blog, you empower and inspire us!!
    You are so very generous, I so love you big heart.

    Xo

    Leslie

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    avatar Laurinda Reinhart says:

    thank you for clarifying your method so beautifully!