Comments on: Group horse training

By: Stina

Stina — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:37:26 +0000

Hi Laura,
You have a good goal and you will reach it. You can also find the way to the happy friendship with your horse. As Parelli don’t work for you, its good you are searching other ways.
Love Stina

By: Stina

Stina — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 13:35:58 +0000

Hi Carolyn!
Here I am – just reading this now.
Happy New Year!
I will make a film clip of this game, thank you for sharing it.
Love Stina

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 00:33:17 +0000

Thank you!
Laura

By: Carolyn Resnick

Carolyn Resnick — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 23:47:15 +0000

Laura,
What is it that you are wanting to accomplish?
I think you need to change your measuring stick.
When your horse does what you want you think she likes you and when she do not do what you want you think she does not like you. It appears to me she likes you because when you stop your intreaction she comes and plays with you.
Using the Rituals to balance the response you are wanting to achieve. Ask questions like do I have my horses attention? If not use the Eye contact Ritual. Is my horse acting afraid or is too bold? If she is use the Rituals Leading from Behind. Do I have her turst? If you do not do the Hello Ritual. It is your job to continue to adjust her attitude to fit in harmony with you. Put more attention of how she feels and work on deepening the connection rather than the performance. Rule of thumb sit with your horse in companionship as much are you interact,play or train.
Every day it is your job to balance the attitude of your horse by picking the right program each day and each minute this is the key. Always look at what is working and build form there.
It looks like you have a habit at looking at what is not working and trying to fix it.
Take your horse out for a long walk and enjoy the day and let her graze on spots you choose put not on the spots she chooses. This is a great way to establish leadrship and the bond at the same time. In a short amount of time she should find that following your lead is natural as well as desirable. Hope this is helpful.
Carolyn
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By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 19:33:25 +0000

I have read your book, Naked Liberty, and I was very impressed. Out of all the things I got for Christmas, it was one of my favourites! I loved the way you told your story and your experiences with the wild horse herd really were pure magic. I enjoyed it very much.
Today I was going outside to do my training work and I set up a smaller area for us to work in at liberty. I got a little too demanding and so strong was the need to get away from me, my horse put out energy she never would have put out for me, and definatly galloped away. I know she wasn’t scared, because I know enough about horse behaviour and enough about my horse.
I was frustrated and brought her back in, but when this happened again, I started to think…something is wrong here. I’ve been doing Parelli Natural Horsemaship for over a year and my horse still doesn’t want to be with me. She doesn’t respect me, and she doesn’t care to be with me at all.
I decided that no matter how much it bugged me that we weren’t ‘doing’ anything or weren’t getting anything ‘accomplished’, I decided that I would sit in the snow covered paddock on the hay feeding trough and just hang out. Sugar came over to me and stayed with me the whole time, occasionally trying to devour my boots, eat my glove and throw my hat. She also attempted to pull my pants off.
Anyways, it was a great experience to put aside the, ‘do, do, do’ and just relax with my horse.
And now that I look back on it…maybe I got more accomplished than I would have anyways!
Feel free to email me, Carolyn, I would love your thoughts, or just post a reply here.
Thanks