Comments on: Harmony, trust and being in the moment http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/harmony-trust-and-being-in-the-moment/ "Take my Quick Quiz to discover your true relationship with your horse!" and join me to learn all about horsemanship and horse training at liberty Sat, 11 Feb 2012 04:24:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Louise-Jayne Haddaway http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/harmony-trust-and-being-in-the-moment/#comment-7763 Louise-Jayne Haddaway Tue, 13 Apr 2010 22:02:08 +0000 http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/?p=2188#comment-7763 Got so into the story that I did not really reply to your blog the way I wanted to. I am sharing space with the hroses every chance I get. I do miss days sometimes when my spine hurts too much to drive, but since I share by using a comfy folding canvas chair so I am able to do it for long periods of time. After reading your Naked Liberty and watching utube videos. I took a pocket full of alfafa pellets with me. (I haven't been haltering any of the horses for weeks.) The babies love the new game and we do serpentines and stop and start, they are willing to trot but they are very careful of me, and show how they are aware of my being crippled by how they position their bodies and how close they get. Sometimes I get too tired, but when I do, they will offer themselves as a leaning place. It gets me tried really fast, as teh pasture is extremely uneven, but its so much fun, and I end up rejoicing at being out of my wheelchair and playing with horses again. One of the mares now follows me too and I give her an treat too once in a while. The other mare is still leary and thinks I will suddenly produce a halter and trap her. She follows at a distance. ALl of them come close when I sit in the chair, and even she will creep up for a handful of pellets now and then. I have a strong helper who is going to start sitting with us in case my diabetes gives me trouble or my spine goes out, so I am not alone etc. While I can not run yet, I have figured out how to do this weird little crouching walk that is enough for a trot even in the rough sections of the pasture, and now I am starting the lead from behind exercise... (Hey I couldn't even walk two years ago, so this is a huge improvement...) I see and hear so much more with the horses. Your method is so amazing I can see my relationship grow with each passing hour. I can see them think and ponder all that I do, and the bond is growing so deep... I had only dreamed of a bond like this. This is everything I promised myself I would do as I lay bedridden from cancer. This is so awesome... I am being reborn! Thank you! Thank you! thank you! Got so into the story that I did not really reply to your blog the way I wanted to.

I am sharing space with the hroses every chance I get. I do miss days sometimes when my spine hurts too much to drive, but since I share by using a comfy folding canvas chair so I am able to do it for long periods of time.

After reading your Naked Liberty and watching utube videos. I took a pocket full of alfafa pellets with me. (I haven’t been haltering any of the horses for weeks.) The babies love the new game and we do serpentines and stop and start, they are willing to trot but they are very careful of me, and show how they are aware of my being crippled by how they position their bodies and how close they get. Sometimes I get too tired, but when I do, they will offer themselves as a leaning place.

It gets me tried really fast, as teh pasture is extremely uneven, but its so much fun, and I end up rejoicing at being out of my wheelchair and playing with horses again.

One of the mares now follows me too and I give her an treat too once in a while. The other mare is still leary and thinks I will suddenly produce a halter and trap her. She follows at a distance. ALl of them come close when I sit in the chair, and even she will creep up for a handful of pellets now and then.

I have a strong helper who is going to start sitting with us in case my diabetes gives me trouble or my spine goes out, so I am not alone etc. While I can not run yet, I have figured out how to do this weird little crouching walk that is enough for a trot even in the rough sections of the pasture, and now I am starting the lead from behind exercise… (Hey I couldn’t even walk two years ago, so this is a huge improvement…)

I see and hear so much more with the horses. Your method is so amazing I can see my relationship grow with each passing hour. I can see them think and ponder all that I do, and the bond is growing so deep… I had only dreamed of a bond like this. This is everything I promised myself I would do as I lay bedridden from cancer. This is so awesome… I am being reborn!

Thank you! Thank you! thank you!

]]> By: Louise-Jayne Haddaway http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/harmony-trust-and-being-in-the-moment/#comment-7761 Louise-Jayne Haddaway Tue, 13 Apr 2010 21:25:28 +0000 http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/?p=2188#comment-7761 I loved your post, but have a question... I was in the paneled pen with a bucket of grain so the four month old fillies could eat without the big mares taking their grain. (Oh, they were five months old.) One day one of the fillies was slow to come up while the other two were glad to come up. (I had been doing this for a week, and they were free to come and go, the panels were too close for the mares to come in though.) I held the bucket at arms length so she could still get it without having to come up to me and all of a sudden her ears went back and she lunged forward and bit the holy hell out of my arm. In shock i just reacted without thinking and chased her out of the pen. Its hard to explain... i felt like my ears were flat back and I was enraged... the picture in my mind was of a wild stud i had seen run a colt off from the herd. OK, I had a lot of blood loss and my sugar dumped instantly, so I guess that has something to do with my reaction, (not unusual for diabetics to get flashes of anger or get seriously cranky when their sugar falls) but I was really shocked at myself afterwards at how I reacted so totally without thought. It really bothers me still six months later. What should I have done? I felt so guilty I gave her and her mother to a good friend of mine who is runs a youth group and works with horses. Still feel like a monster... I loved your post, but have a question… I was in the paneled pen with a bucket of grain so the four month old fillies could eat without the big mares taking their grain. (Oh, they were five months old.)

One day one of the fillies was slow to come up while the other two were glad to come up. (I had been doing this for a week, and they were free to come and go, the panels were too close for the mares to come in though.)

I held the bucket at arms length so she could still get it without having to come up to me and all of a sudden her ears went back and she lunged forward and bit the holy hell out of my arm. In shock i just reacted without thinking and chased her out of the pen. Its hard to explain… i felt like my ears were flat back and I was enraged… the picture in my mind was of a wild stud i had seen run a colt off from the herd.

OK, I had a lot of blood loss and my sugar dumped instantly, so I guess that has something to do with my reaction, (not unusual for diabetics to get flashes of anger or get seriously cranky when their sugar falls) but I was really shocked at myself afterwards at how I reacted so totally without thought. It really bothers me still six months later.

What should I have done? I felt so guilty I gave her and her mother to a good friend of mine who is runs a youth group and works with horses.

Still feel like a monster…

]]> By: Moyna Smeaton http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/harmony-trust-and-being-in-the-moment/#comment-7404 Moyna Smeaton Sat, 27 Mar 2010 21:28:55 +0000 http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/?p=2188#comment-7404 Thanks Marja, glad you got a good feeling from the story... I'm still very 'warm & fuzzy' this morning too! These things are a 'soul tonic'... a strong one. Thanks Marja,
glad you got a good feeling from the story… I’m still very ‘warm & fuzzy’ this morning too! These things are a ‘soul tonic’… a strong one.

]]> By: Marja van Run http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/harmony-trust-and-being-in-the-moment/#comment-7401 Marja van Run Sat, 27 Mar 2010 17:59:35 +0000 http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/?p=2188#comment-7401 Oh Moyna, your story brought tears to my eyes... Wonderful... Oh Moyna, your story brought tears to my eyes… Wonderful…

]]> By: Moyna Smeaton http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/harmony-trust-and-being-in-the-moment/#comment-7399 Moyna Smeaton Sat, 27 Mar 2010 10:11:30 +0000 http://www.carolynresnickblog.com/?p=2188#comment-7399 Dear Carolyn & all, I wanted to share this story because it is a testament to how much 'connection' I have learned through doing the WRs. There is one horse where I have Hero agisted who was badly hurt (beaten) in his past life, so he is very skeptical of people, hard to approach & sometimes bites! I could sense his hurt, so I have made a big effort to befriend him, by letting him call the shots... it's taken a long time & 3 bites, but we got there in the end. He is a very powerful 15.3hh Appy x Andalusian rig, called Brandy Snap. Anyway, today I found him with both front legs caught & tangled in a wire fence (not barbed, thank goodness!) He was frozen & trembling in fear, I don't know how long he'd been caught there. At first I thought I should call someone for help, but then a voice inside said "no, you can do this, just trust him, he needs you." So I took a deep breath & calmed myself to find my 'centre'. Then I called his name softly, asking him if he wanted me to help him. The look in his eyes said 'yes, please hurry, I think I might explode soon!' Hero tried to follow me, but I asked him 'no, not now, you stay there.' He did. The situation was made harder because Brandy has an abcess in one hoof at present! I stood close, put my hands on his wither & heart zone and quietly told him what I was going to do. I could feel the 'electricity' coming off his body! It took a few attempts to untangle one leg, then the other, but he lifted each foot & let me hold it while I pulled the wire away with my other hand. I know it hurt him a lot to put all his weight on the sore foot, but he let me! When he was free he just stood there... still upset & pounding adrenalin, I guess. I leant into his shoulder & just breathed with him, telling him 'it's all OK now Brandy, your free.' Then, something so beautiful happened, I am still quite emotional... he turned his head round & tucked his nose under my armpit, against my chest & sighed... a very deep sigh. We stayed like that for a minute or so, then I very softly asked him to take a step backwards, so that he could really feel that the wires were gone. Then I left him alone to recover his composure. The WRs have helped me so much... 6 months ago I would not have had the faith in my own abilities with horses to try something like this, with any horse... let alone this 'mountain' of terrified horse! So, thank you Carolyn, from my heart to yours... Your greatest lessons for me are faith & trust, if we can achieve these 2 things, then all things are possible. Much love & whinneys, Moyna Dear Carolyn & all,
I wanted to share this story because it is a testament to how much ‘connection’ I have learned through doing the WRs.
There is one horse where I have Hero agisted who was badly hurt (beaten) in his past life, so he is very skeptical of people, hard to approach & sometimes bites! I could sense his hurt, so I have made a big effort to befriend him, by letting him call the shots… it’s taken a long time & 3 bites, but we got there in the end.
He is a very powerful 15.3hh Appy x Andalusian rig, called Brandy Snap.
Anyway, today I found him with both front legs caught & tangled in a wire fence (not barbed, thank goodness!) He was frozen & trembling in fear, I don’t know how long he’d been caught there.
At first I thought I should call someone for help, but then a voice inside said “no, you can do this, just trust him, he needs you.”
So I took a deep breath & calmed myself to find my ‘centre’. Then I called his name softly, asking him if he wanted me to help him. The look in his eyes said ‘yes, please hurry, I think I might explode soon!’
Hero tried to follow me, but I asked him ‘no, not now, you stay there.’ He did.
The situation was made harder because Brandy has an abcess in one hoof at present!
I stood close, put my hands on his wither & heart zone and quietly told him what I was going to do. I could feel the ‘electricity’ coming off his body!
It took a few attempts to untangle one leg, then the other, but he lifted each foot & let me hold it while I pulled the wire away with my other hand.
I know it hurt him a lot to put all his weight on the sore foot, but he let me!
When he was free he just stood there… still upset & pounding adrenalin, I guess.
I leant into his shoulder & just breathed with him, telling him ‘it’s all OK now Brandy, your free.’
Then, something so beautiful happened, I am still quite emotional…
he turned his head round & tucked his nose under my armpit, against my chest & sighed… a very deep sigh. We stayed like that for a minute or so, then I very softly asked him to take a step backwards, so that he could really feel that the wires were gone. Then I left him alone to recover his composure.

The WRs have helped me so much… 6 months ago I would not have had the faith in my own abilities with horses to try something like this, with any horse… let alone this ‘mountain’ of terrified horse!
So, thank you Carolyn, from my heart to yours…
Your greatest lessons for me are faith & trust, if we can achieve these 2 things, then all things are possible.

Much love & whinneys,
Moyna

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