I’m not Proud of this Video on Horse Training

honeyI’m sharing this in hopes to make a difference and shed some light on how horses think, reason and process. The reason I find that this is important is that in the training of horses, for centuries, there is an attitude not to let a horse get away with something. It is thought that if you allow them to get away with something that it will become a negative response that the horse will hold onto. This isn’t the case.

I have loved, lived and been with horses all of my life. The purpose was, and is, to look at them closely to get to know them deeply realizing that in my lifetime I will never completely figure them out. However, through my years of focus on this subject I have learned many things about them. My knowledge has separated me from the equine community in the standpoint of how to approach, train and bond with a horse.

I know this video isn’t very good because it was an “out-take”. The reason it is an out-take is that it didn’t fit with what I want my students to do with their horses. The thing that is important is that Honey needed to be worked closer to the fence and I should have not allowed him to make the turns in the corners so far away. It wasn’t the path that I wanted him on. The other part of this was that I was doing serpentines that were truly unnoticeable. I did this exercise to put enough pressure on him so he might object like he did, that is what I wanted to share and I’m happy that I have this footage.

The thing I wanted everyone to notice here is that the reason Honey freaked out is that he felt the pressure of his lesson and shied at something that was unbeknownst to me. But this business of him shying would not have happened if I had put him in the right state of being before we started. After his freak out I did not respond to it in any way and because of that it was never an issue for him again. We’ve got to learn when we are working with horses to stay on the subject of the training, don’t lose your focus, allow outbursts and a horse will learn more rapidly.

This approach will also cause you to see life and others from a new perspective. What it will do is cause you to respond to a horse differently and the result you receive from this different response in many ways could be life changing. You will find more comfort and support in your life that you didn’t believe is truly there for you.

This is a short blog but nevertheless I hope it has some meaning for you.

Watch out for new horse and human sightings and maybe that new human sighting will be you. May the horse be with you.



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linda salinas - 3 years ago Reply

Hi Carolyn,

I just saw this video of a facebook page I subscribe to which is: Wild for Wildlife and Nature. The pictures they post are incredible. I just saw this video and thought it was worth the post.



susanne meehan - 3 years ago Reply

Susanne Meehan (EEC spring 2011), Ireland

Dear Carolyn and hello all!
Wishing you you all a very happy new year.
All the videos are so inspiring!!!Horses have so much to give if people would only let them.
My big dream for this year is to come out to you Carolyn and learn from you in person. Have you any Waterhole ritual courses this year? I have somehow lost my confidence and would like to start at the very beginning.

warmly, Susan

Carol Caddes, San Juan Capistrano, CA, EC 2011, EC 2012, BTWR 2011, 2012 - 3 years ago Reply

Hi Carolyn

Enjoying Norman so much.

i have a question: This may seem so fundamental, but I would like clarity. The vet says he needs to be walked a lot. Great by me. He’s still new to the stable and me. So share territory first (1/2 the time) then walk. And if he gets anxious on the walk take him back and then start over on the walk? He tends to want to take me for a walk, so either I slow down or speed up?

Thanks for the video. Just loved it. The explanation prior helped me see the serpentine, etc.

As always, I’m very grateful for you.

Jannie Smit (IC Spring and Summer 2012 BWHR 2012) - 3 years ago Reply


Are you still ok for a 10 min. coaching call today? 5pm for your time?
Do you want me to give you a call at that time?

Anna-Karin Hägglund (In a box and 2010 and EC spring 2011) - 3 years ago Reply

I would like to share this one:


I hope it will work 🙂

Aline Mellema/ IC/ Angel and Vicky/ Netherlands/ ECspring2011/ ICfall2011/ BTWRCmarch2012 - 3 years ago Reply

Thanks very much for sharing this with us Carolyn!

After I came home from the clinic in March I’d been practicing the single lining every now and then, but never did this consistently a few times a week for a longer period of time.
That has changed! and I’ve been working on single lining every other day for about two weeks now.
I’ve experienced the importance of warming up with the WHR’s myself last week. There was a day that I didn’t have much time and I didn’t spend enough time on our warming up. The single lining didn’t work out as I hoped it would. It was my mistake! The next day I warmed up with the WHR’s taking all the time we needed and we had a fantastic session.

Like Geerteke said I’m also used to getting a horse warmed up physically, but never thought of warming him up mentally and emotionally as well before I had heard of your method. During the single lining these last few days I got to feel what difference it makes and it’s huge!!
Thank you so much for teaching us about this most important part when training horses.

I had lost all fun in training horses a few years ago (didn’t like the more serious stuff like really working a horse) because I saw things happening around me that disgusted me… but I didn’t know how to do it different either…
Now, thanks to you, I’ve got all the FUN back in training my horse. I LOVE it! And Angel loves it too! 😀
I’m absolutely positive that without you I wouldn’t have been able to work with Angel the way I’m working with her now.
Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us.

Much much love,

Ps. Such a wonderful idea to share videos!
I would like to share this one of a funny bird playing peek-a-boo… so cute!

KatherineHarberd - 3 years ago Reply

Dear Carolyn. How do you deal with important and time-limited situations like veterinary or farrier visits? In all of your work, your horse has choices and so do you (even when Honey spooks) but it seems to me that there are fewer choices/options when the vet visits. Suddenly something must be ‘done’ to a horse and the people around seem to get anxious and braced and into that ‘forcing’ state. The horse (who may or may not have been been working with WHR) may then try kicking out or barging away from a situation which is not to their liking and the people around get even more forceful. I am very curious how to deal with all of this. I have been working with the WHR to find a means of communication that prevents such a situation ever arising but then find myself in the middle of a ‘situation’ and find someone (maybe even a vet or farrier) will then do something akin to ‘disciplining’ the horse and my entire approach collapses. Usual protocol here is that one should never allow a horse to walk through you or kick out at you but surely it is understandable that they would defend themselves if put in a situation with which they are concerned. I would hope that the horse would trust the handler enough to know they are safe and not to need to defend themselves … but what happens if they kick out? Do we then need to get stronger? What are your thoughts on this? Kx

    Carolyn Resnick
    Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

    Dear Katherine,
    I train my horse with the uberstreichen that teachings a horse to give when they do not want to for these events when a horse is expected to perform against his well. They teach tolerance, and so do all the Waterhole Rituals when you do them right. The horse has a choice but not when it is going to eat and he needs keep an eye on me. This is how I get tolerance from a horse.
    I do alot of exercises in standing still.
    Teach your horse to lead by the foot, on any one of them. Teach him to stand ever day for while till it is habit. Make him do things for 5 minuets of this training when he is most receptive being forced to do something. So they get lot of practice. Force him to eat an apple with also help. Poke him and then give him a treat in a way that he would tolerate the poke. This will prepare him for a needle.
    Come and work directly with me and I can help you on these matters. It is easy to get a horse to do just about anything in a easy and loving way.
    When a horse kicks out it is a reminder that I need to train him the next day with an exercise on not kicking. lead him around by his back foot and then teach him to lift it off the ground by a rope. Then hold it off the ground. All can be done easily that a horse would tolerate.
    If the bond is there and the respect and trust it is all quite simple.

    Hope this is of help, So what do you think?

      KatherineHarberd - 3 years ago Reply

      Thank you Carolyn. I love what you say. I want to come and work with you but probably can’t get there until 2014. My horses are definitely becoming more patient and willing by being asked to ‘wait’ (like wait in the stable with the door open before walking out) so I will practice this kind of activity more. You say ‘force him to eat an apple’ … do you mean, open his mouth and shove in a piece of apple? I assume you mean to find ways to make your horse do something he would actually like so he becomes accustomed to being made to do something and not to mistrust (like ‘forcing’ him to take a syringe of carrot puree). Is this what you mean? Kx

        Carolyn Resnick
        Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

        Dear Katherine,
        I remember when I first started to force feed a horse against his will. I was a child and I ran across horses that would stiffen up around people and didn’t want to accept direction. I thought to myself if I forced a horse to do something he really wanted to do like eat an apple we would, in time, trust me and relax. So I took a horse to a corner where he could not get away from me and then helped his head still against his will then tried to put an apple into his mouth so fast that he would object and at the same time used my strength to hold him still. We would struggle. I would win and then he found out that he did to. If I could not get him to eat it I would bite a piece of apple off and fed it to the horse pushing it into the corners of his cheeks and then holding his mouth shut. In no time my horses learned that they liked rough handling. Trust came. My horses looked forward to the rough games.

          KatherineHarberd - 3 years ago Reply

          Fabulous. We are going to have a lot of fun this year … and some ruff stuff too! Kx

      Marja van Run - 3 years ago Reply

      Carolyn, could you perhaps elaborate a bit more about the ‘leading by the foot’? Do you mean picking up a foot and then the horse should walk with you while you hold that foot up? And how would you make him understand how to do that? Or do I misunderstand things here ;-)?


        Carolyn Resnick
        Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

        Dear Marja,
        I simple tie a rope to the foot and lead him this way. You can use another rope on his halter to use to help him along to transend from the lead rope to the foot rope. The back foot I would need to do this in person. Pat I thing and many other natural horseman have info on this you might check there.
        Hope this will help.

        Much love,

          KatherineHarberd - 3 years ago Reply

          Dear Carolyn. Thank you for talking about leading by the foot. There’s a lovely description of doing it as light and kind and easy as can be in the book ‘True Horsemanship Through Feel’ by Bill Dorrance and Leslie Diamond. It’s a good old-fashioned American read too but has not taught me as much about developing feel as you have. Kx

          Marja van Run - 3 years ago Reply

          Thank you Carolyn for explaining about the ‘foot leading’. I also like what you wrote to Katherine about the ‘ruff stuff’; you’re always so good at inventing things that are brilliant by their simplicity :-)!

          Katherine, thanks for the tip about Bill Dorrance’s book, because I have that one!! I just didn’t remember there was something in it about the leading by the foot.


Geerteke Kroes IC 2011 BWHRC 2011 - 3 years ago Reply

Dear Carolyn, apart from the beautiful calm and assertive manner in wich you communicate with Honey my attention was particularly caught by and drawn to the word ‘warming up’.

In my ‘old world’ it has always been a wellknown fact that the rider should have ‘warmed up’ his/her horse before seriously starting with the training. This ‘warming up’ had, and for a lot of horse people these days still has, a physical meaning.

‘Warming up’ a horse mentally and emotionally has proved to be even more important. That has become clearer to me during the last 2 years when I got in touch with you and the WHR.

It gets an even more profound meaning when I notice the change in Marcello. His focus being so different, more inner relaxation, when I have taken the time for his mental and emotional ‘warming up’ and when I forget – the latter also does happen sometimes.

Thank you so much for allowing yourself to open up to us – and I am feeling deep gratitude for myself for opening up to you.

Am happy for you and your mom she is back home in her own familiar surroundings.

Take care and be well

    Carolyn Resnick
    Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

    Dear Geerteke,
    Yes, I have found it hard to explain to my students about the need to warm your horse up to the bond and connection and to get the horse in the mood for their lessons or performance. People think the horse would be able just to start where they left off. But more and more they are getting the idea. Thanks for pointing this out.
    My mom is home and is happy to be here but the cost for home care is really over my head. We are taking one day at a time. My mother will always need home care going forward.
    Thank for your kind words,


Erica Dixon - 3 years ago Reply

Dear Carolyn & all readers

How great to share YouTubes on your blog – I have been enjoying them & will watch some more later…
When we talking at the clinic about a ‘French girl’ – I couldn’t remember her name. I remembered it on the plane on the way home – I think it was Clemence Faivre. I’ve seen her do this routine with her stallion Gotan on another video so he clearly knows his job! After about a minute she takes the curb bridle off. What a talent she has & also a talent for finding incredible horses. Gotan is such an athlete & of course being a stallion – a proper show off! This one is roughly 12 minutes, but at the end is almost my favourite part with Romeo – a pony. Talk about bringing joy to the party 🙂


Best wishes & glad your Mom is doing better.


Jannie Smit (IC Spring and Summer 2012 BWHR 2012) - 3 years ago Reply

Hi Carolyn,

I have a question in regards the WE and 3 speeds of walk. I was playing with this with my horses this morning.

I halve my 20×40 arena for this work so I have a 20×20. Paradox was pretty good by staying in her path in this but Ivanhoe would fall in quite a bit, specially on one site. I sent him out again while we were going but I did not stop put him back on the track and start again like you do with SL.
This was really the first time I played with this and I was concentrating on the 3 speeds and Ivanhoe was doing a great job on this in the end, he really started to listen and his 3rd speed of walk, he was really walking out what is great for him as he can be a little lazy in the walk. I was very happy with how he went.
Do I don’t mind than that he fell in because we only just start working on the 3 speeds or do I have to correct him on that straight away? Or will it be something I can progress into when we get along further.

I know this falling will be solved with the SL anyway, what we will start working on very soon.

The reason I am asking as I am just going through my notes from the BWHR and I wrote down here that I should not let the horse fall in.

I had lost of fun working with this this morning and it is so great to have two such different horses to work with.

By the way, you mentioned that I should work with as many different horses as possible. Well , I have quite a few horses lined up, starting next week. I will keep you posted.

Many greetings

    Carolyn Resnick
    Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

    Dear Jannie,
    First train straight on one side only then get it on the other side. If the second side is harder he needs more practice on the fist side. At fist spend alot of time on perfecting the tempo of one speed before you going to another speed.
    The size of our area is too small. Make it as large as possible for Single Lining.
    We could do a 10 minuet coaching call if you like,


      Jannie Smit (IC Spring and Summer 2012 BWHR 2012) - 3 years ago Reply

      I would like to do a 10 min coaching call, that would clear things up. When would that suite you.
      5 pm your time will be 10 am my time. I am pretty flexible the next coming days.

        Carolyn Resnick
        Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

        We could do it tomorrow. How does that sound? If it is, I will email you to set the call up.


          Jannie Smit (IC Spring and Summer 2012 BWHR 2012) - 3 years ago Reply

          Sounds great Carolyn.
          So that will be 5 pm Sunday 7/1/2013 for you and 10 am Monday 8/1/2013 for me.

priv_ljtindal - 3 years ago Reply

Hi Carolyn,

Happy New Year and best wishes to all of you there in Escondido. I am so glad your mother is now out of hospital.

Thank you for showing us that youtube of Honey. It reminded me a lot of what Cid can sometimes do. I found with Cid that ignoring his antics and proceeding on as if nothing has happened works extremely well compared to any other way of dealing with the issue I have tried.

Reiner Klimke is a favourite of mine too.

This is his Grand Prix Special ride at the Los Angeles Olympics.

His story in “Ahlerich” about the issues they had with the first trot across the diagonal made a big impression on me when I first read it. I dont think it showed much at all on this particular day.


This is part of their victory lap afterwards, these flying lead changes look so effortless for the two of them.


stina - 3 years ago Reply

this is fun!
okay here is another one
Magic and Moonlight playing a trick on Stina

karin kozlowski, EC, West Virginia, Roscoe and Amigo - 3 years ago Reply

Dear Carolyn

Thank you for this very important blog and your video with Honey. And WOW! to all the youtubes.


Linda j Salinas BTWHR Spring 2012 Insider Circle Fall of 2011 and Spring of 2012 - 3 years ago Reply

Hi Carolyn,

Hope your mom is doing well and I hope she has returned home.

I love all your ideas each week, this one included. You always keep your blogs so interesting and fresh. Thank you for sharing your video, I loved it, wow.

Here is the video that so far I don’t think has been posted. I was so moved when I saw this, so the timing of sharing videos is perfect. I hope you enjoy!


Lots of love,


    Carolyn Resnick
    Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

    Dear Linda,
    This just might be my favorite and that is saying alot because they are all so close.
    Thanks for sharing,
    My mother is a home and in hospice care.

      Linda j Salinas BTWHR Spring 2012 Insider Circle Fall of 2011 and Spring of 2012 - 3 years ago Reply

      Hi Carolyn,

      So happy your mom is home. Many moons ago I use to be a hospice volunteer and the people, nurses, and Dr’s were exceptional people. I hope that is your experience.

      I also feel like Aline. You and your method has made all the difference in the world with my horses. I felt before I was searching and could not find what I was looking for, until I found you. You and your method has been the brightest star for us. There are so many jewels to your method, for example the warm up, allowing the horse to always be able to escape your influence, becoming a source of curiosity, sharing territory with it’s multiple benefits, and my favorite, always protecting the relationship first and foremost. There simply are too many for me to mention here but all of them resonate with my soul.

      I am doing things I never dreamed I could do with horses, all because of you and your life experience with horses. Thank you for sharing and making such a difference in my life and the life of my horses. I am so grateful and so are my horses. As you know Sampson has been a source of concern for me for a long time. I know I have mentioned before how he dragged clinicians around in clinics and also his aggression. He does not know how to be social either. I am so happy to report how he is getting better and better. He is transforming in front of my eyes day by day and is quickly becoming my heart throb. He just melts me.

      It is beyond my comprehension why anyone who has horses wouldn’t want what you can offer with your program. You were well worth the search and the wait. It happened at the right time as it always does.

      I can never say thank you enough.

      Love and hugs

        Carolyn Resnick
        Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

        Dear Linda,

        When I was growing up with horses people were intrigued as I saw horses as my best friends. It really delighted them. In our small circle it seemed like everyone connected with their horses like I did, but I think it was like that because they knew that I was a child and they wanted to connect with me.

        When I got older that was when I hit the wall. When I left my circle of friends and stepped into the big world nobody cared. The way I won their trust was to compete and beat people in the show arena. Then they wanted me to train their horses.

        As life evolved, people became interested in how I was actually getting my horses to perform so well. This is when the world opened to me. What has taken place over the last 30 years or more is that I enjoyed sharing with humans in what was important to me. It is this concern for maintaining that special connection a horse wants to have with you that causes all these methods we have out there to work.
        i.e. The idea of the Horse Whisperer. But in reality the horse whisperer didn’t really care. His only concern was to not abuse the horse.

        I remember someone telling me that a family dog is more dangerous to an intruder than a shutzhund trained dog. To a trained dog it’s only his job, if you hurt him he will quit. A family dog you have to kill him. There is the difference.

        When you put relationship first, what takes place is what we are all wanting. I’ve spent a life time figuring out each step of the way that a bond needs to evolve as the training evolves. It is a living organism, what you share between your horse.

        This organism, if it is nurtured, our dance with our horse, as far as I’m concerned, is divine. But I’ve always been a bit of a nut. 🙂

        Warmly, Carolyn

KatherineHarberd - 3 years ago Reply

And here’s a fabulous quadrille with Reiner Klimke on Ahlerich and many other big names. Enjoy!

KatherineHarberd - 3 years ago Reply

Dear Carolyn. Happy New Year and happy healing energy for your mother. Thank you for your videos and your generosity. Here’s a funny from Kizmet on seeing a distant white hat: http://youtu.be/kynVocLiiPM Kx and Kz

Aspasia - 3 years ago Reply

Checking in.
Great lesson! Thank you 🙂
Happy New Year 🙂

Carolyn Resnick
Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

Dear readers,
I am watching all the You Tubs. They are all wonderful. I hope more come in,
So much fun. It reminds me of years ago how excited I was when I got a box of cracker jacks. I would anticipate the prize inside with great excitement and upon my discovery of what I had won, I was never disappointed with the prize.

Looking froward to more,


Jannie Smit (IC Spring and Summer 2012 BWHR 2012) - 3 years ago Reply


Jannie Smit (IC Spring and Summer 2012) - 3 years ago Reply

Thanks for this blog Carolyn, it is very helpful and I love the sharing of YouTube’s. I see if I can find a nice one as well.

Beate Maria Sommer - 3 years ago Reply

Hi Carolyn,
after watching this short clip, I would like to ask 2 questions:
1. did the horse repeatedly choose to come off the wall because she hasn’t learned yet to stay on it and walk in a straight line or did you ask the horse to come off the wall?
2. If the horse chose to kick out, would you be in the kicking zone walking so far back on the horse?
Curious, Beate.

    Carolyn Resnick
    Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

    Dear Beate,
    I was asking my horse to come off the wall and then to return. I have a good connection and bond so Honey is not going to kick. I can also read my horse well. I set up Honey to shy my not warming him up so to so my students what to do. Single lining must not be done until the bond is strong enough so the horse would not kick. I hope this is of help,


sheila - 3 years ago Reply

this beautiful horse and beautiful athletic young woman are my inspiration,,,,
if I could start my life over,,, this is it!
jumping bareback and bitless,,,6 feet looks like nothing to these two!


Marja van Run - 3 years ago Reply

Thanks for showing Honey’s little outburst Carolyn, I think it is a good example of shying because the connection is not there yet. A nice reminder of the importance of applying the WHR as a ‘warming-up’ :-).

Here’s two nice YouTubes (sorry, I couldn’t choose):
Liberty show in a big field: http://youtu.be/fAkiqBDWGW0
High level dressage without bit or saddle: http://youtu.be/JwyHqmsAXRs


    Teri Peery - 3 years ago Reply

    Thank you for posting these Marja! These were two of the most incredible videos I’ve seen. What a great idea to share you tubes.

    Jannie Smit (IC Spring and Summer 2012) - 3 years ago Reply

    I love the dressage one, very inspiring.

Leanna Kielian - 3 years ago Reply


Thank you for showing how you helped Honey add an updated video tape to her memory/response collection by not reacting to her spook and how she was then able to learn from/with you without additional stress. I also enjoyed your description of what you didn’t like that made it an outtake.

I was reading the Sabro Blog the other day and it had pictures of Vaclav Vydra an actor from Czechoslovakia on a hunt with his 17 year old mare bridleless(and barefoot) here is a link to a video of him riding including hunting:

Here are some great still shots from the Sabro blog of the hunt:http://www.sabro-blog.de/groses-staunen-auf-der-herbstjagd/#more-306

PS: he rides his mare in US Civil war reenactments bridleless in his country as General Custer and also opened a much needed veterinary clinic to help horses in his country.

    Jannie Smit (IC Spring and Summer 2012) - 3 years ago Reply

    So wonderful to see that it can also been done without a bridle etc.
    Great clip

Dee Barman, EC, Koda, ST - 3 years ago Reply

Us there any possibility of tanslating the second one to English? I would have enjoyed it more if I had known what he was saying. It is a great video any way.

Dee Barman, EC, Koda, ST - 3 years ago Reply

Thank you, we need to see that things really do not go perfectly all the time, it helps give confidence to us and the horses.

Anna-Karin Hägglund (In a box and 2010 and EC spring 2011) - 3 years ago Reply

Thank you for sharing the video with you and Honey. A good remainder!

Happy new year to all of you!


Tessa - 3 years ago Reply

I love that you showed this Carolyn. Having a lack of ability to refocus has been my biggest barrier. I had over 10 take-off and bolting accidents on various horses that shook me up pretty well about 8 years ago. Then no matter what horse it was, I was always a bit nervous under the surface and a horse would spook. I would jump off and would have to just sit and breathe for a bit before I got back on.

Recently that’s been changing due to having a very brave young horse. I just tell myself to breathe when he does spook on the way out the property where we ride.

Normally once we hit the trail (about 10 mins of riding later), we’re both more relaxed and establish the flow you have with Honey in the second part of the video.

A tactic that’s been helpful for me is to get my mind/focus off the horse. Ex Riding: Looking at a tree in the distance or having in my mind an idea to have a pedestrian approaching us give us a treat.

When I first started riding Milo, a good friend would ask me what was in each corner of the arena? My job was to verbally yell it. This tactic got me “out of my head” and also focusing on the object. Milo followed my focus and we often stayed perfectly on the rail due to this on a loose rein bareback.

Thank you for highlighting such an important issue. I really do think many owners (myself included) often cause their horse nerves when it’s really THEM who are scared or nervous or not present.

    Carolyn Resnick
    Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

    Dear Tessa,

    Foundation not only works for the horse but it works for the human too. What I see is going on for you is not enough time in feeling comfortable in the environment of horses.

    How this was never a problem for me is that my dad always put me on a horse that no matter how one was feeling they wouldn’t spook. I didn’t know horses could spook.

    This made me a very strong rider because I didn’t believe the horse spooked and I wouldn’t play into it. And through having a strong foundation a horse couldn’t unload me.

    I’m so glad to see that you are enjoying your progress, the journey that you have taken has really empowered you. Thank you for sharing.

    Warmly, Carolyn

Elodie Belz (ICC spring 2011) - 3 years ago Reply

Dear Carolyn,

Thank you for sharing this video. It really shows that whatever happens is fine: little incidents always happen with horse, but horses always have a no-fault insurance. And if something is not perfect, it is ok to make mistakes and try again. I have found that our mistakes are one of our best teaching aid when we can see them.

Here is a video I really like. It shows very well that riding bitless is not a proof that a deep friendship exists between horse and rider, and that the frienship must be there before the training starts, just like you start horses with the WHR before moving to tack. In the video one can see that a horse can be trained to be ridden bitless and suffer it without the bond existing. But when the bond is there, the expression of the horse becomes beautiful and the horse starts to shine in happiness and pride. I think the video shows it extremely well because the difference in the horse’s expression between “before” and “now” is striking, and I find this young girl very brave for showing her own past mistakes to get her point accross to the viewers. I hope you will like it too:


I wish you a very nice week-end,

    Jannie Smit (IC Spring and Summer 2012) - 3 years ago Reply

    Hey, Elodie, great youtube. Thanks for sharing

    Carolyn Resnick
    Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

    Dear Elodie,

    It was such a pleasure working with you. I love your YouTube. I do believe you are gifted in knowing how to travel into new spaces with horses.

    I’m looking forward to watching you grow your understanding of horse training and the dance.

    Warmly, Carolyn

Pauhla Whitaker - 3 years ago Reply

Thanks Carolyn. This is a great illustration of what you were trying to explain and it was clear from the start that Honey wasn’t happy or feeling connected.
I do think “freak out” is a very strong description though. I was expecting something much bigger :0))))
One thing I’m unsure about…you said you didn’t react or correct him so it was no big deal but as soon as he started to shy, it appears that you gave the rope a quick upwards shake to remind him you were at the end of it. Wouldn’t even a reaction that subtle be perceived as a correction by Honey?

    Carolyn Resnick
    Carolyn Resnick - 3 years ago Reply

    Dear Pauhla,
    I got Honeys attention communicating with him through the line so he would remember we are together. It was not a correction. Energy is a delicate matter and your intention will affect the outcome dramatically.
    I did not take him back to the scary spot or reprimand him for his out burst, or get angry on take my attention of the exercise. When I used the line it was a flick that said remember we are here together.

    When we went back he chose to go back. If he did not go back I would have taken him back and he new this because the history of trust we have.
    Hope this is of help,

Wilma (IC fall 2011) - 3 years ago Reply

Hello Carolyn
There sure was a difference in his attitude from before you started (impatient) to when you finished (soft attitude). It didn’t take punishment, fixing, wearing him out, or drilling to correct him or coax him, just continuation of what you were doing.
Looked great, thanks!
Hope your mother is doing well.

Sandy f. - 3 years ago Reply

Hi Carolyn,
I hope I don’t offend when I say that what you show is exactly what I want to see in a trainer. You explained first that Honey was not connected to you, and when he spooked, your response was spot on. Your correction was non involvement in his overreaction, so the next time around he remembered that and behaved beautifully. We do need to see the not so nice moments and what you do about them. I am learning so much!
Thanks for all that you share.

stina - 3 years ago Reply

Nice videos and story about Honey and his training. I look forward to get started with single lining so this was good inspiration what to focus on.

Here is a video I would like to share on the theme of interspecies connection –
Humans and Sharks

Happy New Year to all of you!

Christina Ring - 3 years ago Reply

Thanks for sharing your stories Craolyn. I love this clip. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5ZmDkhqhW8

Desiree, the Netherlands, EC spring 2012, IC summer 2012 with Abby - 3 years ago Reply

Thank you for sharing this Carolyn. It’s almost reassuring to see that little incidents like these happen, even with the most experienced horse trainers 😉 . I guess it’s just part of dealing with horses. It also clearly shows how preliminary work and the right attitude can prevent little spooks like these from getting out of hand. I find it very helpful!

A link I would like to share is this one, just because of the FUN this girl and her horse are having: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s95RxmFhrYA&feature=share


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