Jun 20th, 2013 by Carolyn Resnick
Liberty Dancing with Horses using the Waterhole Rituals:
I want my students to find their own individuality and to deepen their understanding of the equine mind and spirit. When I am helping a student I like to encourage them to be their own guide while learning how to dance with a horse at liberty.
I direct my students to exercise their own unique leadership style and their own body language from experiencing a spontaneous dance with a horse. I do not offer standard body language positions. I want body language to bloom naturally. Set body language hampers the true connection that is in the moment. I encourage creativity to allow a person to experience his own natural way with a horse. Some people think they do not have a natural way, but we all do.
The Benefits of Dancing with a Horse Spontaneously:
When the dance at liberty is spontaneous, a person awakens to knowing how to dance with a horse and feels the harmony in all living things. In this awakening they find their own personal power. From this discovery of personal power he or she instinctively knows how to keep the dance alive from their leadership choices. They know when to lead, when to pause, when to influence, when to follow, when to encourage, when to lower his or her energy, when to raise it, when to leave, when to draw, when to send, when to allow and when not to allow. They know how to stay both in the rhythm of the dance and with the horse.
In a spontaneous dance the body language is naturally inviting, influential and instinctual. What is so enjoyable is to see how surprised my students are that they can dance with a horse so effortlessly, easily and naturally here at my ranch.
The Benefits of Working with a Beginner’s Mind:
The beginner’s mind is fresh and the first spontaneous dance is like that and it feels like it will always be there. It feels like that, even if it is only a few moments that you are in connection with a horse. To the heart it feels like a lifetime.
In the next dance the connection may be a bit of a challenge, which is created from expectations. Memory and expectations can push away the dance. This happens from not approaching your horse with the same beginner’s mind. Relationships are also like that. It takes time to know how to grow them and keep them alive. Once the bond is set, the work begins and it is uplifting to take the time to recreate the magic. It is all good and inviting.
The magic in any relationship is created by bringing awareness to your partner that he or she is being courted, taken care of and at the same time not letting your partner take advantage of you or you of your partner.
Each time you invite a spontaneous dance, you need to look deeply into where to begin to see what you need to act upon in order to move the horse to want to dance. You do this by preparing the horse in the moment so that the heartfelt strings of connection are all vibrating between you and this can be done in the dance itself. These strings of connection are strengthened by your energy, intentions, and leadership approach which are driven by a clear and open heart.
A spontaneous dance that you create with your horse can wake up an inner knowingness into how to keep the dance alive and know when and how to end it. In this freedom you are more able to use your inner guidance system. You can see what your energy brings to the relationship and how to use your energy more effectively.
So what are these strings of connection?
The heart felt strings of connection are the vibrations that are shared in a partnership. In a relationship these strings of connection can come and go. Each partner must do his part to keep them alive. Bond, trust, respect, focus and willingness are all needed and shared in the moment for the dance to be fully alive. Each feeling is needed – the bond, trust, respect, focus and the willingness in the moment. You might have a bond between you in the moment, but you may not have the others in that same moment. All these must be vibrating for the partnership to be at its best. You could have a bond, but not the trust or you could have trust, but lose the bond. You might have the bond and the trust but not the respect or the willingness. You could have all of these, but if your horse is not focused on you there would be no dance. This ability to understand which string is missing is important. You need to see how your horse is feeling in any given moment. You should watch for when the horse might lose one of these strings and then, in the dance by your direction, it can be regained from what you choose to ask for in the spontaneous dance, i.e. pausing, circling or whatever. It is all about seeing your horse’s point of view.
The Benefits of the Magnetic Connection:
After the first magical dance with a horse, a person has a tendency to expect that the magnetic connection will always work because the first spontaneous dance deepens the bond. (The magnetic connection is that a horse will match your movements without being directed).
Expectations can hurt a relationship. When this happens a person has a tendency to demand performance in anger, driven by disappointment. Another response could be to quit and not move forward.
Taking for granted that a horse, or even a human, owes us a certain response just because of the bond is a formula to lose the harmony in connection and the magic you have. Expectations are a form of capture to a horse and from a horse’s perspective his freedom is lost.
Horses connect with us from the vibrations that exist in the moment, not from the bond they owe us.
Relationships need to offer freedom for the relationship to stay alive. This is why I suggest the Hello Ritual as an ongoing statement to the horse. It helps a horse trust that by having a relationship with you he does not need to feel a loss of freedom in order to have that relationship. In fact, what we want is that a horse feels more freedom by being in our company.
When you know that you have a strong connection with a horse in the moment and you have a great dance going on, each directive you give will bring a horse to want to continue on or loose interest. What you ask your horse to perform and the energy that you evoke will carry the dance forward.
When the Dance is Alive:
When the dance is on and alive and the magic is happening you still need to put your attention on the times that you must build your horse’s energy, or lower it, to keep the willing heart of the horse dancing with you.
I wrote about this in my book “Naked Liberty”. You can find it in the chapter entitled ‘Dancing with Mustano’. What I want people to understand, is that you must wait for the opportunity to arise to be able to step back into the next dance. This way you can bring back the magic. Each time you connect it is important to meet the horse again with the same freshness and awareness you brought to the table in the first dance.
Your horse will always be different and you will be too. It seems hard, but it isn’t. Drop your expectations and remember the approach that you used the first time dancing with your horse.
Bit by bit you will develop your instincts, approach and understanding that make it possible to dance with your horse at liberty. And then bit by bit you will know how to court the horse to want to dance.
Update on Robin Gates:
Robin is now home from the hospital and has asked me to let everyone know that she can feel all of the love and healing energy that is being sent her way. She wanted me to tell you that the love isn’t just stoping with her. She feels that it is being sent out to everyone in waves of healing energy that is stronger from the care that has been given to her by all of you.
A miracle has just happened because of gofundme.com. Robin has many wires and stitches in her head that need to be removed and because Robin does not have insurance, the surgeon refused to remove them. Neal, her husband, was told to find another doctor to handle Robin’s follow up care. Of course, I’m sure that no doctor would want to follow up on an unknown doctors surgery because of not knowing the intricacies of that operation. Robin was put into a jam, but because of gofundme.com and the money she has received, she can now pay for the follow up care with the original surgeon. So this money she has received had urgent need and support. I want to thank all of you, and Robin wants to thank you as well, for your support and love.
Love and light, Carolyn
Here is a link to help Robin
Waterhole Rituals Clinics with Linda Salinas, Certified Carolyn Resnick Trainer
September 14th & 15th, 2013 – Gastonia, North Carolina
October 4th – 6th, 2013 – Comfort, Texas
January 27th – 31st, 2014 – St. Vincent, Caribbean