A Code Of Conduct that will help your Ability to Connect Deeply with a Horse while Communicating and Training
A Code Of Conduct that will help your ability to connect deeply with a horse while communicating and training.
If you are dancing with horses at liberty it is paramount that you practice this code of conduct that brings about a good relationship with a horse while communication and training. It is based on when to respect your horse’s personal space and when you should ask your horse to respect yours.
I first learned how horses create relationships from my experiences as a child observing horses in natural wild horse herds. At this time I discovered a code of conduct that produced a sense of well being and brought about a shared trust and respect. I discovered that squabbles over sharing territory and food settled down when the code of conduct was upheld and shared.
I have since followed this code all my life and it is the answer to an unbroken ability to stay in alignment with a horse. When I interact with horses at liberty and follow this code of conduct, horses respond to me as a family member that they trust and respect. In no time at all, following this code, a horse will choose to follow my lead and feels safe doing so. This code of conduct is universal to all living creatures, even humans.
This is how it works as it relates to human behavior. If we are invited to dinner we follow the social etiquette of the host. For example; when the host would like us to sit down at the dinner table we respect this custom. We also are careful not to over stay our welcome and we don’t take off right after eating as that would be rude. We also do not ask for more food if there is no food left on the table nor do we take food from another person’s plate and so on. All of these behaviors fall under a single code of conduct that we learned from our elders.
Often times this code of conduct is taught to a horse soon after birth by their mother. The foal learns when it is ok to nurse and when it is not ok. The foal learns to respect the needs of his or her mother. This creates social awareness. The instincts of the foal at birth, along with the lessons he learns from his mother and the social interactions he shares with a herd, develop appropriate social behavior which contributes to getting along with other horses and forming friendships. The earlier a foal learns social behavior the more social conscious he or she is throughout it’s life. The later the opposite is true.
When a foal looses it’s mother and is raised by humans it has no idea how to get along socially. He or she most always will have problems wanting to listen and understand how to fit in. There is a name for this condition it is called Orphan Foal Syndrome. Orphan Foal Syndrome is easy to prevent by training a foal that there is a time to nurse and a time not to nurse, like a mare would teach.
When a foal is born he or she knows to follow it’s mother instinctually. It also knows how to move away from anything that would try to approach. In the beginning this behavior is what makes it easy for a foal to learn the universal code of conduct regarding personal space, respecting how another horse is feeling in the moment, and how to behave around food.
When a horse walks up to you, he is entering your personal space just like a guest that you may have over for dinner. In this situation he will listen to your wants and needs more easily. If you do not set your limits a horse can become pushy. It is important that you take the leadership role in regards to your personal space requirements. The limits you set need to be flexible for this is how a horse learns how you want to be treated in the moment. When your horse walks up to you, the more willing your horse is to leave your personal space the move you can let down your boundaries. If your horse then begins to be pushy again you go back to setting your boundaries higher. If you enter your horse’s personal space, you then need to follow his lead and respect his feeling and right to his personal space. It is a back and forth shared relationship. When this code is practiced and upheld trust, respect, and friendships are formed and a great harmonious connection is achieved. The dance you share at liberty is then shared As One.
What you learn working a horse at Liberty with my method will support anything and everything you do with a horse. What you learn about horses in these course will amaze you. This class is for you if want to grow your leadership, and grow a deep bond while learning how to develop your horse’s instinct to follow your lead. You will enjoy the journey and so will your horse. I hope to see you in the class.
Have a great weekend! Be on the lookout for new horse and human sightings and may the horse be with you.