Expectations and Performance Horses
Expecting performance is what ruins a good horse. With every response that a horse offers, he will build upon it until it becomes a habit to perform or behave in that way. A horse builds behaviors bit by bit, day by day and ride by ride. On the days he falls backwards the horse should not be pushed. The simple rule to follow is, always accept what your horse offers even if you have to start at the beginning. Evolution will advance the horse's training because of the consistency of day by day. Each day I start out by putting my focus on finding the connection and willingness before I ask anything from the horse. What I see often between trainers and the horse, when the halter is being put on, is that neither is paying attention to the other and no time is taken for the greeting ceremony. The greeting ceremony is important. It allows for the magnetic connection to bring you together with your horse. It also gives the time needed for you and your horse to give full attention to your leadership and to bring the herding behavior out in the horse to glue to you.
Because of the nature of horses, everyone who rides a horse takes on the role of a trainer even if a person has no interest in training. Any time you take a horse somewhere you are in the leadership role. If the experience is good, the horse evolves and offers a more advanced performance. If the horse is not feeling a connection, negative behavior will increase. Horses are always ready to make changes good and bad.
Horses do not take life for granted like we do. Because of this they are very impressionable. Each day a person influences a horse from the saddle or on the ground will create a behavior that will show up the next day. Understanding this can give you some food for thought. When you finish riding your horse, think back to how you have influenced your horse during your ride together, then pay attention to his attitude and performance on the following day. If a horse is off or is working really well, you can usually put it on to the interactions he experienced from the day before. This focus will help you to improve your approach.
Over a short time you will begin to think like a talented trainer avoiding force and taking a smarter approach so you can have a better relationship with your horse when you ride. From these considerations you become more conscious on keeping the connection rather than paying no attention and thinking your horse will naturally do what he is told.
Awake to the Moment.... Always
Taking a horse for granted can lead to a bad deal for ourselves and for our horses. Staying awake to the moment and working with things as they are without force or anger is the way to get through the rough spots with a horse. From what you learn in how to connect with a horse without force or anger you are also more empowered to smooth out the rough spots in your personal life a well. An open heart never expects a response to be a certain way. An open heart just accepts what is. Personal power is enhanced by not wanting anything to be different. From this way of being, the training of your horse will create a magical dance.
Leadership with Intention and Energy
Here is a tip that you might want to develop when relating to a horse that is ill at ease. When a horse is not connected with you and does not want to be, when he is agitated, unhappy or fearful do not allow this energy to reside in you. Then intentionally create the energy you want the horse to have inside yourself. Feel this new energy deep within you, and this will cause a horse to connect with you and begin to relax. I have used this all my life and it works wonders… Maybe you would like to add a tip or two for all of us that you use to gain a magical connection with a horse. I would love to hear from you.
Remember to watch out for more new horse and human sightings and may the horse be with you,